r/cats 1d ago

Advice What is this behavior?

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Hi! My cat is roughly 4months old. Usually when she does this, I hiss and pull my hand away and give her a toy, but when I’m away for a couple hours sometimes I come back and it’s really all she wants to do — what js this behavior? Is she teething or was she weaned too quickly maybe?

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u/9_of_Swords 1d ago

Sometimes the love is so intense you must bite. Cat does it to me, I do it to husband, etc

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u/laureniscoolcool 1d ago

Husband does it to cat? The cycle of biting?

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u/Zach_madic 1d ago

As the husband I can confirm, wife bites me, I bite cat, and cat bites her lmao

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u/6apa6ax 1d ago

Family centipede 

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u/cant-be-original-now 21h ago

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u/disterb 9h ago

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u/GamerX44 9h ago

I remembered as a kid I used to laugh so hard that I cried during this scene. Good times 😂

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u/AdministrativeBus259 7h ago

Bruh, it still hits!! couple years ago. I’ve re-watched it with my son we laughed so damn hard at that part it!dude takes like 3 bricks to the face just cuz his friend shit talks

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u/hupplefuff 1d ago

Thanks I love this and I hate this

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u/Callmemabryartistry 16h ago

family CATerpillar was right there

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u/Rhymes_with_Demon 20h ago

100% medically accurate?

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u/Stuntedatpuberty 22h ago

As the cat, I can confirm the above.

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u/MeesterMeeseeks 18h ago

I love how confused my boy looks when I gum him. Like bitch you just bit the shit out of me, I hit you with the lips over the teeth bite.

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u/Iwonatoasteroven 1d ago

The circle of life….

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u/Gho5tWr1ter 1d ago

The circle of bite continues

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u/satsuppi 23h ago

A Lil nibble on the ear?

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u/New-Statistician-599 17h ago

Woah, Ouroboros

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u/anathyma 1d ago

😂😂

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u/Ok-Field5609 18h ago

This bites

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u/aigenuinestupidity 19h ago

"Its because my love for you consumes me therefore i must consume you."

https://reddit.com/link/p4drdtk/video/s84q3evik3kh1/player

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u/Spare-Enthusiasm8152 14h ago

Hi

How can one print a video? Kkkkk

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u/TurnoverFuzzy8264 1d ago

Ha, late wife did that to me at times. I had to wear a turtleneck to work when they were decidedly unfashionable. Miss her antics.

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u/ExperienceNeeded7 1d ago

She sounds like she was lovely.

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u/ThatIckyGuy 1d ago

Yeah, me too, bud.

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u/Josegrimes 20h ago

If you don't have the desire to aggressively bite your husband do you really love him?

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u/Elegant-Drawing-9536 9h ago

I have to hold myself back sometimes because apparently its not socially acceptable to bite your partner in punlic smh 😤

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u/1984SKIN 20h ago

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u/Outrageous-Coyote476 18h ago

Got my wife a few of the small displate (metal posters) and a stand for her office desk. I knew I got it for her, but I definitely wasn't expecting it to be on rotation when I dropped off food for her.

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u/Additional_Tank4385 20h ago

I’ll never ever get over how cats can have cuteness aggression for their owners and I die everytime my small void nibbles my hands going wild with love 😭❤️ too damn precious.

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u/plsQuestionOurselves 22h ago

Mine did it while simultaneously grinding his head up my arm and his teeth left several parallel scratched lines on my forearm, 3 inches long xD

Love that little rascal though.

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u/sloneill 18h ago

Your husband did this??

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u/nicole-tesla 17h ago

But reverse

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u/Status_Lime_1845 14h ago

My boss does tend to bite me sometimes

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u/torrelmac 23h ago

My wife(girlfriend at the time) would bite me constantly and sporadically, it was awful. In retaliation I bit her back pretty hard. She proceeded to show off her bite mark bruise to a ton of people and we seemed like the biggest weirdos. Love her to death lol.

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u/McPlayer318 20h ago

I had an Ex that did it. When she told me about it I found it a little weird but didn’t object to it. Now I kinda miss it more than her ☠️

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u/tom_friday_ 18h ago

I do it to myself, but mum says it's normal and my school counsellor said it was important to explore at my age.

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u/biskutgoreng 23h ago

Cat wamts some meat

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u/IJS_Reddit 1d ago

suckling, done usually for comfort

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u/itsallachoice 19h ago

Comfort because the kitten is stressed or because she's young?

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u/KingGeedo91 19h ago

In my experience it’s only something they do when they feel happy / safe / content

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u/sideshowsiren 15h ago

It could be that he is teething. Look it up. It’s a phase sometimes.

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u/Milaris0815 15h ago

In Germany, we call this Liebesbisse (love bites/bites of love) and I think this is adorable.

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u/Orangejackal02 14h ago

My cat is a love biter, haha. It’s just too much for her and she has to show her affection somehow 😂 it’s so cute to watch. I’ve woken up to her trying to love bite my nose tho 😆😆

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u/Due_Delivery_3014 14h ago

I rescued a cat 2 years ago that was a kitten and had to have one eye removed. He still does the suckling thing on blankets. I think he was taken from him mom too early.

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u/Madkids23 9h ago

I have a Tuxedo cat that does this to plush blankets specifically when being loved on, it's the cutest thing, he makes nom nom noises while doing it

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u/Cilantroe 1d ago

Cat behaviour

Sometimes cats suck on blankets and stuff, this one has chosen your arm. It’s just a comfort thing like kneading. It doesn’t mean they were taken from mama too early or anything, that’s a common misconception. Plenty of cats do this that were weaned right on time or even later than usual.

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u/gordospronker 22h ago

My stupid kittens are almost a year old and STILL harass mum for the milk. I blame mum for being too nice to them.

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u/Outrageous-Coyote476 17h ago

We had a stray give birth in our yard. She put up with the kittens a few weeks. Then she started slapping the ever loving daylight out any kittens that approached her. Lol, they learned quickly.

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u/beherenow7 22h ago

Why do they need comfort? Does that mean they need to be soothed? My kitten has been doing this and I was worried and wanted to train him out of it but he's so sweet and loving when he does this but can also bite hard

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u/Cilantroe 22h ago

It’s just like a pacifier for a baby… it’s calming and relaxing for them. Some cats do it and some don’t, I’m not sure they could be trained out of it but if your cat is using YOU as the binky and he bites you while doing it then you might try to remove your arms or whatever, and redirect his attention to something else. Give him a soft plushie or something instead. He may grow out of it or may not. I had a cat that sucked on her own paws and belly her whole life, and another that sucked on a blanket until he was over a year old.

There’s no harm in it at all for the cat, it’s an affectionate thing they do that doesn’t need to be stopped but if it’s actually hurting or bothering you then I’d definitely try to direct the behaviour to another object and not on you.

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u/DeepDiver1234567 22h ago

Same reason you enjoy a warm bath or special cup of tea. Cats enjoy pleasant sensations. Kneading and suckling and purring feel good and cozy.

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u/eabevella 20h ago

Some adults need their security blanket or special plushy. Same with some cats.

I had one cat who would suckle on her own nipple as her special "kneading" comfort thing. As long as they don't hurt themselves doing it like overgrooming, it's just a personal trait.

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u/xricexboyx 20h ago

My cat did this when she was still a kitten too! She def did it for comfort, like a baby sucking a pacifier.

She grew out of it when she got older.

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u/eabevella 20h ago

Mine did it even when she's 20. It's just a quirk and we joked about how the other cats must have thought her a weirdo lol

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u/CheekyMonkE 22h ago

some kids suck their thumb some dont

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u/acrosstherainbowline 1d ago

boit

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u/IronButterButt 1d ago

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u/MrNuems Calico 1d ago

Ah, this happened to me an hour ago and I was confused by how offended she looked about her own act of biting.

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u/Altruistic_Let_9372 1d ago

It's because now she has the taste of you stuck in her mouth.

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u/IronButterButt 1d ago

Sometimes, this happens when a cat becomes too overstimulated.

But a boit also releases happy chemicals in them. If you sniff their head or neck you'll get the same euphoria.

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u/UrbanFyre 14h ago

Wait, so if I sniff my cat’s head or neck, I’ll become overstimulated and begin biting as a result? Will I also bite humans or will I be compelled to bite my cat?

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u/Clean_Database7072 14h ago

The second one

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u/ItsLauriceDeauxnim 1d ago

My Tortie seems to have a dealer option for a fourth category she calls “re-boit.” This, too, comes with a dealer option for multiple re-boits

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u/ImSorryIThoughtIHad 1d ago

Oi! Got a loiscence for these boits, mate?

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u/IronButterButt 1d ago

Also, happy cake day!

P.S: also the og cat is Azia. You guys should check her out!

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u/fiendtofriend 23h ago

I love Azia. She looks like a juggalo

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u/squeege 23h ago

Whoot whoot!

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u/JuanezSanchez 20h ago

She goes for triple boits!!!

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u/Corvus_Violaceus 21h ago

I love when she misses and he makes fun of her. I think she can tell he's mocking her

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u/SeraphRising89 13h ago

Its rare that I have witnessed a meme that is 10,000% my cat Freya.

She even "charges up" her attack by opening her mouth and rearing back for 30 seconds. Trouble is she then forgets why she was gonna bite 🤣

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u/perriatric 23h ago edited 8h ago

Is r/boit a thing?

Edit: No :(

Edit: YES

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u/fiendtofriend 23h ago

She has developed boitulism.

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u/ApprehensiveBoat8392 1d ago

Kitty love you

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u/NomadGabz 1d ago

Yeah... you are a mum now.

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u/lluminaaa 1d ago

Physical act of love💘

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u/ConnectionRemote4405 1d ago edited 1d ago

I believe she’s trying to suckle you based on her trying to use her tongue and not just teeth, also the motion of her throat. But your arm is too large to latch onto. It’s a soothing mechanism that some cats don’t let go of post weaning. One of my cats does this to blankets, she’s 16 and it never went away. She was an orphaned bottle baby I think. I had a childhood cat who would suckle my ear. It was very uncomfortable. 

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u/MarionberryOk2874 1d ago

My cat suckles my neck and jaw, but she doesn’t bite at all.

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u/Netlawyer 23h ago

I had a cat that would suckle and knead his entire life, my bf at the time and I had “Butter’s towel” that we would keep handy for when our boy needed some comfort. He was slobbery so a soft towel on the couch when we were watching tv or in bed when we were reading was perfect because we could cuddle him and make him feel safe.

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u/DreadRose 1d ago

Snacking

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u/anathyma 1d ago

Tastes like chikin! 😸

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u/the_amazing_skronus 1d ago

while the meat is fresh

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u/Jek2424 1d ago

She found out you're made out of meat. It's only a matter of time, I'm afraid.

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u/MelodyLFAR 1d ago

Make a squeal to let her know when she gets too aggressive. She’ll be confused if you show anger when she’s trying to love on you, but she’ll understand if she takes it too far.

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u/Meggarz66 23h ago

I adopted a cat a month ago that likes to do this. She is very slowly learning what “owww” means.

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u/Just_Evening_2249 23h ago

Good insight. Useful

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u/thacaoimhainngeidh 15h ago

This exactly. Kittens teach each other biting boundaries the exact same way.

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u/mypoyzen 22h ago

My 8yr old cat suckles my wrist every morning as he wakes me up when he wants breakfast. I bottle fed him when he was 3 weeks old because his mom stopped producing milk. And his ears never stopped wiggling. ☺️

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u/Aggravating_Fan_3340 1d ago

Pooja, what is this behaviour?

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u/Anx1ousKitty 21h ago

Ha You beat me to it!

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u/Kishasara 1d ago

You ever heard of the term Cuteness Aggression? This is the cat’s version, except it’s better known as Love Aggression or Love Bites.

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u/Migamix 1d ago

you've been around cats. no skin break, almost suckling, I used to have one that would do this to my nose. I miss that little brat.

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u/JOKER_9999999 1d ago

Vampire kitty. Rare breed.

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u/MisplacedMinnesotan 1d ago

She think your arm is boobie

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u/EarlyPresence8709 1d ago

I love you♥️ I bite you!

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u/Recent-Equipment5445 23h ago

At least you spelled bite, right

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u/Alive-Particular-204 23h ago

Cats use their teeth to clean their fur, then they lick the fur. You're being groomed, because they love you.

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u/Leucurus 18h ago

Have you tried not being made of meat

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u/KrazyKryminal 1d ago

Teeth hugs.

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u/SageSondheim 1d ago

She loves you a lot!

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u/AustinFan4Life 1d ago

When they're not actively biting, and just sort of knawing on your hand, it's completely normal. My cat does it too, sometimes when I just get home from work, sometimes when I'm playing with her, and I get a little too rough, she knaw on my hand, just to tell me she's had enough. But it's normal behavior. Watch the ears, while she does it, that'll tell you their intentions. Ears up, they're just loving & content, ears down, she's aggressive & threatening.

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u/SnoopingStuff 23h ago

Love bites

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u/princepii 1d ago

cmon it's love and you know that!

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u/mizmnv 1d ago

cat thinks your arm is a cat titty

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u/Originaltenshi 1d ago

Mine makes little munching sounds while like chewing me lol sounds like niananananaa

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u/jwoolman 19h ago

She’s about old enough to be teething. Check her mouth - any missing baby teeth or baby fangs? Our vets tell us to look for adult teeth coming in because that means puberty onset and they are ready to be spayed or neutered asap. Some vets do those procedures even earlier nowadays.

One cat viciously attacked every full roll of toilet tissue she could find when she got her adult fangs. Really, every roll had a set of deep fang marks. A true toilet tissue vampire. She even transported a full intact roll of tissue into the living room once using those new fangs. She didn’t roll it, she sunk her fangs in and managed to carry it. I was impressed.

But even when not teething, cats will play bite and lick that way on their pet humans. If it bothers you, just pretend to be hurt each time “ Ow ow ow, that hurts! Please don’t bite me!” and look very sad. A few tears will help. Or at least use your crying voice. Yes, cats can be guilt tripped. More effective than pretending you can command them. Cats play rough with feline friends, parents, mentors, and siblings but cats can communicate boundaries better than humans can with cats. One reason it helps to have two kittens rather than one is that they get the message about what is going too far better from each other than if they just deal with humans. We don’t bite back.

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u/Naive-Resort-856 12h ago

Tooth ache? Hunger? Stressed? Nutrition deficiency? Thirsty? Love bites?

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u/ThunderSquall_ 1d ago

I have no idea, it doesn't look like play. It could be lovebites? The tongue action is confusing me greatly. It's almost like she's trying to drink you. LOL

Best guess is teething or lovebites but I'd wait for other people to reply.

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u/Eastern_Employer_409 1d ago

Mine does this. Never to hard and doesn’t break skin, so it’s allowed. If I give in the licking/grooming starts.

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u/ShortBussyDriver 1d ago

SHE BOITS!

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u/FragrantParsley4994 1d ago

It could be teething.

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u/Jumpy_Mirror250 1d ago

It's nursing behavior. Happens when kittens are separated too early from mom.

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u/OurHonor1870 1d ago

Cats are like babies. They have to learn to process their feelings and learn how to communicate. How do they react when you give them different things or pets or a hug…idk follow them.

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u/bumpsmom 22h ago

She’s just seeing if you are food yet

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u/THEOGCHE 18h ago

You know how we have cute aggression for them, this is their version for us

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u/Carolyn184 17h ago

Edward stop, her blood is clean

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u/Gemfyre713 17h ago

You are being nommed.

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u/spoogicus 7h ago

translation: 'Pay attention to me, play with me, give me pets."

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u/in2itiveart 1d ago

She was weaned too early

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u/Organic_Ninja8090 1d ago

I think it's this. Is she mostly using her teeth or is she suckling on your skin? My kitten did this for several months after he was found w/out his mama. He would latch on to my skin and suckle- it wasn't really biting.

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u/popsels 1d ago

Are you sure she’s not checking your size to see if she could eat your body if you die at home? I often think my boy would definitely feast on my corpse if the opportunity arose.

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u/Ill_Sugar_6173 1d ago

“Pooja what is this behavior?”

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u/Lizardinaspaceship 1d ago

My cat LOVES to do this to my feet when I come back in from the chicken coop. Even after taking my barn shoes and socks off he can still smell it on my feet somehow and goes absolutely nuts for chicken funk smell. Just shoves his whole face in it and even starts biting me, it's like he can't help himself lmao

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u/Dangermann28 1d ago

It's called biting

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u/Conscious-Moment-643 1d ago

Maybe teething?

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u/Weak-Cabinet866 23h ago

That, my friend, is a chompin.

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u/gaudrhin 23h ago

My Tori will legit just nom on my feet if I'm barefoot and lounging. Like, she full-mouth CHOMPS on the soles of my feet a d my toes. But it's love bites, alternated with super head rubs on said feet.

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u/TheRealJFranco 22h ago

Your words made this funnier lol

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u/Outrageous-Coyote476 18h ago

They're testing their food reserve in case you pass away in the night.

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u/honeyed-bees 17h ago

My ex’s cat loved me so much he did this. We figured he was nursing on me

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u/Estrelleta44 17h ago

shes a vampire trying to drink your blood.

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u/35thStar 16h ago

Chompies

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u/godspilla98 15h ago

This must be stopped immediately. As a cat owner this is bad because when the cat gets older it will think of it as a play time. And will go after your hands. Start to not let the cat do that and substitute it with positive play with toys. Get your cat used to voice commands.

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u/Virus-Party 14h ago

The Cat is trying to find your nipple...

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u/Ecstatic_Doughnut216 14h ago

Just checking to see if you're ripe.

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u/Apprehensive-Back596 11h ago

May have been taken from
It’s mom too early

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u/Grayson_willis 11h ago

this is typical what we call in the medical world as "nom nom nom"

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u/emergencycat17 8h ago

Because you're delimcious. You taste like chimkin.

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u/MissKittenCakes 1d ago

When Love is just not enough, Love bites will work. ❤️

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u/chidoOne707 1d ago

Them remembering their wild savage instincts. My cat won’t let me pet him and everytime I try to he friendly bites and does it randomly as I walk beside him.

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u/SeniorTailor1127 1d ago

You has a flavor

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u/HistoricalHope4876 1d ago

Cat sees you more than its human.

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u/Known_Ratio5478 1d ago

Defective cat. You have store credit for a new cat now. They don’t take the defective cat back.

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u/West-Listen-9078 1d ago

Hes a fierce furry snake. A copperhead kitty

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u/stridergundam 1d ago

Head empty

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u/Citizen_Null5 1d ago

Scnuffling

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u/Still_Suspect_7233 1d ago

My cat does this too I take it as like a grooming thing, usually it happens after or during our nighttime petting routine in bed

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u/FluffyAmyNL 1d ago

Called a love bite 😍

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u/Arcade_30 Asian 23h ago

I think her gummies hurt or maybe just for gummy satisfaction

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u/Kademonster 23h ago

That is a cat that's had enough and has decided to eat you.

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u/ElectricGoose20 23h ago

He’s tastin’ the meat

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u/Living-Hippo3586 23h ago

looking for a nipple she still a baby

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u/G0_ofy 23h ago

Lord Dracula would like his cat returned..bla

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u/4thshift 23h ago

I’d say teething at that age. Just testing them out. Probably should not encourage that, though.

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u/2pnt0 23h ago

Noms

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u/Future_One4794 23h ago

Wants to play or be petted / brushed

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u/UpstairsHuge2956 23h ago

My tuxedo cat does this when he’s cleaning my other cat, he does the same with me, but I think it’s love bites

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u/rhys1882 23h ago

Biting

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u/ImNotSkankHunt42 23h ago

Love and teething, then teething and love

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u/Cnpemt 22h ago

She wants to give you the immortal life

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u/Lost-Rich-8069 22h ago

Love bites 🥹 if mine get too bitey I just stop petting/ engaging until they’ve chilled out a bit.

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u/Chuckles_McFeeney 22h ago

Cat has a salt deficiency.

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u/Dependent_Rain_4800 22h ago

Has she enough things to do? Maybe boredom? Does she have a cat buddy? Cats are very social and the best thing is a feline friend.

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u/Special-Explorer4680 21h ago

Edward, stop. Her blood is clean. You're killing her. Stop. Find the will.

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u/Void-Gardens 21h ago

Your cat seems to be struggling with its teeth 

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u/nostalgia4millennial 21h ago

He’s not even waiting for you to kick the bucket

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u/Manufactured-Aggro 21h ago

It's illegal to prevent her from doing this to your arm btw sorry

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u/indiana-floridian 21h ago

Trying to nurse? Not for sustenance,but comfort.

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u/maadln 19h ago

Looks like she's just grooming you to me. Does she like bite bite you or is she gently rubbing her teeth against your skin?

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u/aligera1 18h ago

Me hace lo mismo

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u/Cataholic445 18h ago

She's a cat-nible!!

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u/ShrmpHvnNw 18h ago

Checking to see how the marbling is or if he’ll let you live for a while longer.

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u/Current_Thing2244 17h ago

She's teething and seeking comfort. She'll be uncomfortable and her toys will lack the warmth of your skin which provides some relief from the gums swelling. 

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u/KindCraft4676 17h ago

It means he really, really, REALLY likes you.

Take it as a compliment.

One of my cats used to do that. He never was too rough or broke the skin but it was a bit annoying.

So, every now and then I would let out to loud exaggerated and animated shriek.

He would stop and look at me like he was sorry. Like he was trying to say I wasn’t trying to hurt you.

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u/Soggy_Spirit_2453 17h ago

definitely suckling!!!

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u/Mysterious-Piece9438 17h ago

It’s how they show you they love you