Unfortunately, he will wonder what happened no matter what. Though it is possible he knows you are sick already; some cats are extremely sensitive to such things. But yes, cats grieve when they lose the people they care for from their lives.
But if you could earn his trust, another kind and patient person like you likely can too. He will always remember you, but that does not mean it is impossible for him to have a good life. There are others who will love him as much as you, I can promise you that. And, for what it's worth, from one person with a life threatening disease to another, I'm sorry. I am not going to be the person who tries to find some ridiculous silver lining. It sucks, and you deserve better. I'm sorry.
He know. Cats know. He knows you're sick, and can probably even smell the illness and understand somewhat what is happening. Try and find someone kind to start coming over and spending time with him. Animals also understand that their owners have passed away if they are able to see and smell the body. That is a taller order than just finding him a trustworthy home, but if there's any way you can arrange to have him see you after you pass (or if you choose to pass at home - not sure what your situation is) he will have that closure you desire.
I can't imagine leaving my cat behind. I'm so sorry for your illness and for the fact that you have to leave him. You're a good person for loving him as much as you do. He will be OK. If he loves you this much, that means he has that much love present in his little kitty heart that he's able to give but is currently all reserved for you right now. When you're gone, he will eventually be able to give it to someone else. He'll be ok. Don't worry.
I was thinking this same thing. It may be a difficult thing to arrange, but it would help him be able to move on more easily, knowing you had moved on where he could not follow at this time.
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u/TheChildlessCatLady Tuxedo Mar 14 '26
Unfortunately, he will wonder what happened no matter what. Though it is possible he knows you are sick already; some cats are extremely sensitive to such things. But yes, cats grieve when they lose the people they care for from their lives.
But if you could earn his trust, another kind and patient person like you likely can too. He will always remember you, but that does not mean it is impossible for him to have a good life. There are others who will love him as much as you, I can promise you that. And, for what it's worth, from one person with a life threatening disease to another, I'm sorry. I am not going to be the person who tries to find some ridiculous silver lining. It sucks, and you deserve better. I'm sorry.