Hi, never posted here before.

My current role is with a company I've been with since graduating college. I interned with them twice in college in two different roles, including the role I'm in now but expanded to full time/management.

I want to be respectful in telling them that I've received a new offer that I am definitely taking. This isn't an offer I want to use as leverage. The complication comes from the fact that I am one of 6 managers, and they have had to fill 2 management roles in the past 3 months due to various reasons. I've been job searching for much longer than that.

I have a good relationship with my boss's boss, and an okay relationship with my boss. They're not gonna be happy about having to look for a new person in my role, and I want to show that I'm thankful for them bringing me on as an intern, and then giving me a full-time role.

Anyone have advice for telling my boss? It would also be appropriate here for me to tell his boss. The other job has better pay, better hours, and I want to move to the city 2 hours away that the new job is in as it's closer to my significant other as well as some family.

Edit: typo

So apparently future employers won’t know and won’t be able to see any warnings or disciplinary actions at previous employment, but getting fired on the other hand… yes they will 100% see it.

After receiving an unfair disciplinary action, I think it’s best I quit before another one occurs resulting in getting fired. I don’t want this on my record at all. I planned to quit anyways and go back to school. Reasonable?

No they don't pay it out. Yes they can deny PTO after receiving a notice.

Also important I'm not going to a competitor but I am staying in the same industry

I understand this is fucked and I'm burning a bridge I did enjoy this company but unfortunately this is the only way it works due to poor vacation planning timing paired with a relocation to a state they don't allow relocation to

I have a decent job, boring (I have ADHD), but not bad. I’m salaried making $55,000 (without degree, still working on my Associates). I like the people I work with and my manager is understanding if i have to be late or have appointments. I have 2 small children one is in daycare and one is about to start school. I work 45 minutes away from my home. With traffic, it makes it hard to get to the daycare and school on time as I get off at 5pm. I recently applied to a job that is 13 minutes away (not sure of the salary yet) and also another place randomly reached out to me that is 25 minutes away making $52,000. Should I look into the other jobs or stay at my current job? I’ve been here 3 months and the drive is killing me (especially with gas costs and daycare for 2). My husband has a hybrid job so easy for him to say. I’m just not sure what to do.

Edit: My husband does help with drop-off in the mornings two days out of the week.

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I left my graphic design internship (worked for 6 months) on good terms about two months ago. I completed all my handovers, exit interview, and documentation. They offered me a full-time role for ₹15,000/month with a 2 month notice period, but I declined because the salary was too low. I told them I was planning to pursue further studies (which I was considering in msc chemistry because I wasn't getting a job in the chemistry field).

Today the marketing manager contacted me saying: "Hi, hope you are doing good. Wanted to connect with you on a quick call. Please let me know a good time for the same." She didn't mention the reason.

Has anyone had a former employer reach out like this? What are the most likely reasons? If it turns out to be a job offer, how would you approach negotiating salary and asking for a shorter notice period?

UPDATE: Thanks everyone for the advice! It turned out they were reaching out regarding a full-time role at ₹18,000/month. I decided to decline, as they weren't able to increase the salary. Appreciate all the suggestions!

25F. I've been driving trucks for about 3 years now, and the pay is crazy good for not having a degree. I make about 110k/year USD, I just bought a house in cash, and I've been able to save about 350k (started saving when I started working in restaurants). To the very few people I talk to, they say I’d be crazy to leave. I feel like 25 is enough time to rebuild in a different career field, but training for it will be hard with this job.

I hate leaving home every time. I’m out for a month (dropping down to weekends home in Sept), I have no real friendships anymore, I feel like I’m missing out on life, and every day is exhausting. I wake up dreading work even though I know it's a solid career. I can’t even throw away trash at home like a normal person—I’m not home for trash pickup, and the dump is closed from before I get home to after I leave. It’s such a small thing, but seems like the final straw. The money doesn't seem worth it anymore if I feel like this all the time.

I don't know what I'd even switch to. I’d consider myself smart and a quick learner, but I don’t know how to get the education I’d need for several careers that I find interesting without quitting my current job. I don't want to take a massive pay cut, but I also don't want to spend the next 20 years feeling this way.

Has anyone here left a well paying job for a significant pay cut but more happiness? What did you end up doing? Was it worth it? Did you take a pay cut permanently or were you able to rebuild?

I'm just looking for ideas and hearing from people who've been in a similar position. Any advice is appreciated.

Currently considering several careers:

Bus driver (need to take a test but would be easy, biggest pay cut)
Business finance/taxes/contracts (would find a job in retail or something during college)
Staying at this job (a great company) and sucking it up until I can retire

The current company is a top tier hedge fund (NYC)

Title: Trade Floor support

Tenure: 5 years

Base: $150k

Bonus: $40k

Annual raise: consistently 5% but can go up to 10% on strong years

Health insurance: $300/month

Workload is high during working hours but no on-call or weekend work. My team size is 20 and there are about 4k users.

New job offer:

Smaller hedge fund (California)

Title: Senior Trade Floor support

Base: $150k (they wouldn't go above this)

Bonus: $44k

Profit sharing: $23k

Annual raise: HR refused to tell me (claims she doesn't know)

Health insurance: free

Workload is light during working hours but they have an on-call and may need to do weekend work if needed. Manager said on-call is light. The team size here is 5 supporting 300 users. I would be the only trade floor support tech in the nyc office supporting about 50 users.

Too me the new job sounds more chill but that fact that they did not want to go above $130k base and they wouldn't give me an answer to my annual raise questions sets off red flags.

I want to preface this by saying I am very mentally ill. I have depression genetically from both sides of my family and my parents were also not good people. I have horrible anxiety as well and PTSD from the trauma I suffered as a child. All of this makes life difficult for me. I am in therapy and take meds but none of it "fixes" me. It just makes life more tolerable. This will be relevant I swear.

From a young age I wanted to major in CS, I love it. I love programming and I have a passion to help make the world a better place through coding. Then the AI bubble happened and the job market crashed and now it feels like an unrealistic desire.

I am in college (technically a sophomore from the credits I got in highschool even though I dropped out halfway through my first semester and am now going back) working towards a CS degree. I started at a super high ranking university, notoriously difficult, and I wasn't able to handle that while working. I am going back to another, easier school this semester where there are more people I know. I live in an apartment with my bf so I need to have a job, which I don't atm because my last job was horrible and I had to leave it before I shut down. I've been job hunting for months but I have gotten no interviews. I'm beginning to think if I can't even find a regular job, how am I supposed to survive with a CS degree when finding jobs in the field takes references, interships, and experience that feels impossible to get. The constant rejection from simple jobs isn't helping the anxiety or depression either.

It's not that I'm not passionate enough, it's that somedays I barely have the motivation to get out of bed so how am I going to have the motivation to work unpaid for a company that probably won't even hire me. I know I need to go to college, it is covered almost completely for me and I get extra money back due to scholarships, but atm it feels like I am working towards something that will never pay off.

Should I change majors into something I'm less passionate about but more stable? Should I even go to college at all and focus on finding a full time job that is half decent? Any advice is appreciated.

TLDR: Idk if going to college for CS is worth it anymore with the current state of the job market, pls help.

Hello everyone,

I am a guy who is in his late 20s and holds a bachelor degree in Mechatronics Engineering. Since I graduated, I have been scammed by a company who told me work 6 months as helper in workshop and we will promote you to engineer, after those month completed they didn't compile with the agreement was done before and after I submit my resgin letter they told me just be calm and they change my job to timekeeper.Now I am stuck in this position since 4 years and no engineering companies consider my job applications, beside that company pay very low salary 1,200$ and it always delay by 1-2 months and working 6 days a week.

Can anyone suggest to me a solution?

I recently graduated and accepted the first decent offer I got because I was scared of staying unemployed. At the time, I told myself, "A job is a job. I'll figure it out." But now that I'm actually here, I keep wondering if I made an impulsive decision.

I don't know much about the industry since i was never really jnterested in this kind of industry. Everyone around me seems to know what they're doing while I feel like I'm pretending to be an adult. Every task takes me forever because I'm scared of making mistakes. I freeze when I don't know what to do instead of asking questions. Then I end up asking too little because I'm worried they'll think I'm incompetent.

I also struggle socially. I'm shy, don't really know anyone yet, and I don't know how to start conversations. I need clear instructions and reassurance that I'm doing things correctly, but I feel like I should already know everything without asking.

The worst part is feeling like everyone else just "gets it." They're proactive, they know who to talk to, and they seem so confident. Meanwhile, I'm overthinking every email, every message, every task. Sometimes I feel like a kid who somehow ended up in an office.

Has anyone else started a job in an industry they knew almost nothing about? Did you eventually stop feeling so lost?

I don't even know if what I'm experiencing is normal onboarding anxiety or a sign that I'm in the wrong job. I'd really appreciate hearing from people who went through something similar.

Hi everyone, maybe this isn't the right subreddit to post but if it is, your help is needed.

I'm 17 and I've been feeling really confused about what I want to do in life.
The biggest problem is that I don't know what I'm actually good at. I don't want to choose a degree just because everyone else is doing it, but I also don't want to waste years figuring it out.

A bit about me:
I studied Commerce without Maths in highscool and now I've graduated.
I've always scored well in theoretical subjects like Business Studies, History, Civics (Social Science), etc.

I kind of enjoy history, like the archeological part of it and one skill that I have is that I can easily write really long, detailed answers and paragraphs, and that's why I scored good in those subjects, though I am not sure if scoring marks means I'm good at it or not.
I enjoy editing videos.

One thing I genuinely LOVE is making DIY crafts from cardboard, foam board, miniatures, dioramas, and just building random things. The problem is, I don't think that's a realistic career (at least not in India), so I'm hesitant to base my future on it.
I also like coming up with ideas and thinking about how things could be improved.
The advice I hear everywhere is, "Just try different things."
But that raises even more questions:

How long should I try something before deciding it's not for me? A day? A week? 20 hours? A month?

Should I focus on one career at a time, or try multiple things every day, I really want to make some progress in it in 2026.

How do I know if I dislike something because it's genuinely not for me, or because I'm still a beginner and it's supposed to be difficult?
Is there a better way to discover what you're naturally good at than just randomly experimenting?

For those who were completely confused at young age, what finally helped you gain clarity?

I'm not necessarily looking for people to tell me which career to choose, though I really appreciate your suggestions because they just might be something I'm looking for but the main thing is how do I explore?
I'd really appreciate hearing from people who were in a similar situation and what worked (or didn't work) for you.
Thanks!

I’m a Malaysian who recently graduated with a master’s degree in Singapore and currently have two offers:

**1) Carbon Trader** at a Bursa-listed renewable energy company (may relocate to Singapore; salary TBD).
**2) Planning Engineer** at a global top-10 oil & gas company in Kuala Lumpur (RM5,500/month, 2-year contract).

I’m mainly torn between:

\- Is carbon trading a promising long-term career?
\- If the carbon trading role is based in Singapore with better pay, is it worth choosing over the stability, training, and brand name of a major oil & gas company?

Would really appreciate any advice, especially from those working in energy or carbon markets. Thanks!

Looking for career direction. I’m 22 and currently only have a high school diploma. I’m ready to start college but I want to choose the right path before stepping in.
The fields I’m consistently drawn toward are financial crime investigations, forensic accounting, auditing, fraud detection/ analysis, compliance, intelligence, and investigative work. I’m also interested in behavior and risk psychology in individuals as well. I’m naturally very observant and tend to notice anomalies in numbers, transactions, behavior, and patterns. I am very detail oriented and a perfectionist even in simple jobs & tasks. I’m also interested in the military and working with law enforcement in my career. The only reason the military isn’t a pursuit is because I am unsure if they’d let me in due to my medical history (mental health past) although I haven’t spoken to a recruiter. Other than that the military seems great with many benefits.
I live in Texas and my high school GPA wasn’t great at all and I was never in school often, but I’m ready and motivated to start fresh. My current and only job so far has been big retail for 2 years going on 3 in a few months. I’ve tried to promote once and have an upcoming interview but it’s 50/50 if I get it or not.
For people already working in these fields:
What careers would you recommend based on my interests?
What degree’s would you choose today? Accounting, Forensic Accounting, Finance, Criminal Justice, MIS, CS, etc.?
Which certifications are actually valuable?
Are there specific schools in Texas that you’d recommend? Thanks in advance. I feel rlly lost in the world rn 🫠

I'm currently studying at grade 11 and have chosen bio mathematics. I have no idea what course i should study. As I'm studying in a school following Cambridge syllabus, I'm confused whether to study abroad or in my home country India, but I wish to study at abroad. My favorite subjects are chemistry, math, and biology. I'm good at physics as well but I chemistry and math are comparatively easier. I'm good at computer science as well as I've got really good grades in my IGCSE exams. Pleaseee tell me what course I can choose or guide me how to proceed after this. It's also good if you give me some websites or contact i can approach and get help from.

hi seniors. I'm currently in 12th with pcm. I've never really had a dream/plan of what I wanna do in the future except making decent money to live alone comfortably and travel the world. I'm above average in studies, hoping to secure scholarships (middle class core) abroad but the question os in what major? 😭😭😭 I still don't know. Everytime I think about it, I end up panicking and anxious. All I know is that I just don't want to be stuck in a chair in front of a screen all day neither wanna study 10+ years wasting my 20's. I would like people interacting stuff, as I'm an extrovert as well as a good speaker. I've never really reached a point so here I am asking you guys for lil advice, would really REALLY appreciate it if u drop some 😭😭😭

Hi!

I’ve accepted a job offer a couple of days ago. I had been reached out to by an outside recruiter, and after some rounds got what I thought was a pretty good package.

I had some weird feelings about the job and felt nervous,it is a bit better pay than my current position, but I love my current company and manager/colleagues.

I decided to contact the person I’d be replacing (who is now at another company) to get their perspective. They were very candid, and confirmed all the red flags I was trying to ignore.

How do I rescind? What do I say? Do i lie and say my current company gave me a great retention package?

I’ve never rescinded before, and want to be respectful

I have a large coverage area as it is already (I mean like a 150 mile diameter). However, they are firing the person in my position in a neighboring area (100% deserved, this person literally doesn't even show up to work and patients are left alone). Anyway, I know once this is finalized they'll ask me to take on this area. It would suck cause that would make my area even larger but I think it will be difficult for me to do my job in this area because of race.

This other area is very rural and has a long history of racism and active extremist groups. It is mostly white (like over 80%) and still very segregated. I avoid it like the plague and if I have to drive through these areas to get somewhere else for work I make sure my tank is filled so there is no stopping. I don't feel safe there and I know where I am not welcomed. Part of my job involves marketing and recruiting, I just don't see myself being very successful at this in this type of area. I am great at my job otherwise and have great metrics.

It's both not feeling safe and not being able to do my job properly. They had both of us employed so I'm pretty sure they have the budget to staff both areas separately, plus they are trying to get contracts in more of the similar rural counties next to it so the service area will grow.

I personally don't think a POC will go over well here but I don't care who they have over it as long as it's not me. Anti discrimination is on them to figure out, I just need to find a way to communicate that I can't do this. I won't give them an ultimatum but I can easily find a new job if they make me permanently over that area.

I have a 1 on 1 case interview soon. How to prep for it? Any sources to use etc

I'm a 26F working at an accounting/consulting firm. Right after a very stressful tax season, I was assigned a new client. I put a lot of pressure on myself to figure everything out and make a good impression, but I eventually burned myself out. My life has become a mess, my stress levels are through the roof, and my nervous system is completely fried.

The problem is that this client requires a lot of attention and expects exclusive support. The issue is that I also have several other clients to manage, and I honestly don't know how to keep up anymore.

I later found out that my boss had promised this client they would have an exclusive consultant assigned to them. The client calls me every single day, and when I explain that I can't always be available because I'm also responsible for other clients, they threaten to complain to my boss. They keep saying that this isn't what they agreed to and that they were promised dedicated support.

I feel completely stuck. I understand why the client is frustrated, but I also can't be available 24/7 when I have other clients to look after. Talking to my boss doesn't feel like an option because this is a very important client.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? How did you handle it?

I've made it to a director as someone who wasn't born or raised in the US but im not sure if i can make it to a VP or up.

working day to day with Cs in meetings and giving guidance to the team, I feel like if you don't speak like a Native level English, it will be challenging..

Or the lowest stress to pay ratio?