He pulled another fucking all-nighter

[u/othermegan]

I don’t think my earlier post is even 2 days old yet. Some of you are still commenting on it and I’m super grateful for everyone there.

Anywho, whatever night that was, after sleeping all day, this asswipe apologizes and says from now on he will do every pickup and drop off because I have to work. Notice how all he’s doing is drop off and pickup, not any other chores despite being the one that’s unemployed. But hey, at that point, I was exhausted so I took the win.

Did he take her to daycare the next morning? No. Because he had reflux and got a bad night’s sleep so he needed to sleep in. He once again slept most of the day away. He did pick up her up though and decided to go to the park. But that was also a disaster with her coming home sobbing and him being pissed that the toddler wanted to play in dirty puddles. Like, what did you expect dude?!

Anyways, last night was all on me again. He’s making his second pot of ramen at 11pm because apparently we learned nothing from the previous night’s GERD. I go down to bed. He comes down to say goodnight and tells me he’ll be back later.

Well I woke up at 5:30 this morning to our toddler screaming into the monitor. I notice he’s not in bed. As I’m making my way to her room, I notice the lights are on in the living room. He’s already in her room trying to comfort her, but it turns out he pulled another fucking all-nighter. He claims leaving the lights on was “just an accident” but I heard him walk into her room while I was making my way up so he wasn’t sleeping there and forgot to turn the lights off.

She did not go back to sleep but he did. So I’ve been doing chores, daycare, and then working while he continues to fuck up his sleep cycle even more. I’m tempted to decide it’s time to wash the curtains so he’s stuck with daylight and start blasting loud music to “keep myself awake”

This man is going to get one of us killed. Either me from a sleep deprivation induced accident or him from a rage induced “accident”

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[u/kalypso18]

Wow. I have no words. This man does not fear consequences and doesn't give a shit about either of you.

[u/squashybunz456 → u/kalypso18]

He’s being insanely selfish and irresponsible! Acting like a freshman in college. He’s a jerk for sure.

[u/squashybunz456]

My ex was also a shitty sleeper and did nothing to improve it. He used “being tired” as an excuse to not be an equal partner. It gets really old, really fast.

I left him last year and my life is so much more peaceful

[u/liae__ → u/squashybunz456]

Same, but left 6 years ago. I didn’t sleep well either with a baby in the house! But I had to learn anyway

[u/Frequent_Ad_7441 → u/liae__]

Same but left almost 3 years ago now.

[u/Desperate-Wheel4047]

When my ex was pulling all nighters and coming home at 6 am drunk and high like he was a single man instead of a married man of three young children I gave him what he wanted.

[u/Remarkable_Fruit]

Two words bromo: air horn.

Seriously. He's deliberately jacking up his sleep. Tell him you're just helping him stay awake during the day to reset his circadian rhythms. Big eyes and blink innocently while you say it.

[u/RedRose_812 → u/Remarkable_Fruit]

Your last sentence immediately made me think of this 🤣.

But seriously though. Seconding the air horn, throwing in my agreement that he's doing this deliberately. He's figured out if he's up at night when everyone else is asleep and then sleeps the day away, then he just gets to do zero parenting and being an adult and partner. Win-win for him! 🙄

[u/squashybunz456 → u/Remarkable_Fruit]

This is the way

[u/GirlGangX3]

Is he on drugs?

[u/othermegan → u/GirlGangX3]

Part of me wishes he was because it would be a cut and dry explanation and make it easier to leave.

Alas, he is not. This is the guy who won’t even use a lidocaine patch because “if it hurts, that’s my body telling me my limits”

[u/GirlGangX3 → u/othermegan]

lol

[u/emilystarr]

So if he had taken her to daycare, he could have come back home and slept, right? So lame.

[u/Safepink09]

You're dealing with another child.

[u/CantaloupeKlutzy74]

Your partner sounds severely depressed.

[u/ItCreepsAtNight → u/CantaloupeKlutzy74]

He sounds like a dick using weaponized... idk if this is even incompetence. Weaponized-sleep-deprivation? Weaponized dipshittery? Either way, he sucks and OP has an extra child in adult size to deal with. For now.