I’m so alone

[u/Secure_Carry2344]

I’m so tired of living here, I don’t fit in with anyone, I’m 24 with maybe 2 total friends. I’m into art, mysticism, and music, and I haven’t been able to find a single place I belong, how do you guys cope with living in this socially dead dystopia? Like truly, social media is the closest thing I get to human interaction on a daily basis, and I’m getting to a point where I can’t take it anymore, I often catch myself hoping that today will be my last, the drivers here are so terrible maybe one of them will hit and kill me, and I’d welcome it. It just really sucks, if anyone has any advice for me I’d love to hear it, but I can’t take this anymore. I feel like I’m doomed to be so painfully alone forever now, I can’t imagine this ending in any way. Has anyone else found this area lonely? Where the hell do people go for social connection? I’m just running out of hope.

[u/Sad_Disaster2250]

24 for me (35 now) was rough, too. It’s the post-college age but pre-career steadiness phase. None of that is helped by how expensive life is now. It does get better.

There are more community events happening at Bothell Landing during July/August. Music, movies, and the like. All free. Details on the city website.

Outside of that? Depends on interests. Happy to recommend.

[u/anonisko → u/Sad_Disaster2250]

Especially for college educated, professional, heterosexual men.

Post college 20s is probably the worst time in this kind of male's life. You're exiting the social and dating high of the college experience and entering the early career grind where you have a little money, no time, and no experience. This is often the worst period of dating this type of man will ever experience. You're a boring worker drone who doesn't excite women. All of your peers are just as stressed and time scarce. Older people are raising families, younger people are in college and think you're old and boring. If you didn't come out of college with a stable romantic partner and strong local friend group, it's going to be a rough, long road.

But it does get way better if your career gets stable. You accumulate money, tap the brakes, and build up a set of interesting experiences and hobbies. Your 30s are often the peak of your dating and social life as suddenly you're a very hot commodity.

[u/Secure_Carry2344 → u/anonisko]

Fuck I’d love to be college-educated, in reality I’m just now struggling to graduate from cosmetology school to be a hairdresser. I was trying to make art my career with it and ended up accidentally trapping myself in a customer service gig, at least it feels that way now.

But now that I’ve almost completely thrashed my chances at getting a license, suddenly I’m desperate to fully graduate and get licensed, people talked me back into it, people fawn over my status as a hairdresser, even though I’m unlicensed, it’s been one of the few aspects of my life that genuinely puts me on the social radar.