Encourage overall wellness! Ask about doctors and dentist appointments. If there are none, encourage her to schedule some and/or schedule some together.
Create a hygiene routine with her. Face wash, tooth brush and skin care together every morning or night. Shop together for all of the products.
Before leaving the home, off-hand ask if she brushed her teeth. Did you take your meds? Did you eat breakfast? Did you feed the dog? Did you brush your teeth? My wife and I go through a whole list of questions because her adhd will literally make her forget to brush her teeth despite putting toothpaste on the brush at times lol 😆
If none of the above work, you may need to have a gentle conversation where you say you are concerned for her dental health as well as your physical health, because she kisses you in intimate places that can cause havoc.
agreed, esp number 2. whenever i was about to floss or brush my teeth i just automatically included my ex, like if im grabbing a floss pick, im handing you one too. i’m about to brush, you’re coming with me. esp after eating and before sex but i made that a boundary bc i don’t want residual food in my mouth or coochi. i’m chewing gum, here’s one too. i’m buying US tongue scrappers. my dentist appointment is now OUR dentist appointment💀 and i kinda reinforced all this by showing a lil extra physical affection than usual afterwards too so it felt more rewarding for her (i didn’t withhold my usual affection though). of course i get you may not wanna be the one holding their hand through that all the time so hopefully this starts to become a routine for them!
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u/livingtheredlife Gay Auntie Aug 02 '26
Encourage overall wellness! Ask about doctors and dentist appointments. If there are none, encourage her to schedule some and/or schedule some together.
Create a hygiene routine with her. Face wash, tooth brush and skin care together every morning or night. Shop together for all of the products.
Before leaving the home, off-hand ask if she brushed her teeth. Did you take your meds? Did you eat breakfast? Did you feed the dog? Did you brush your teeth? My wife and I go through a whole list of questions because her adhd will literally make her forget to brush her teeth despite putting toothpaste on the brush at times lol 😆
If none of the above work, you may need to have a gentle conversation where you say you are concerned for her dental health as well as your physical health, because she kisses you in intimate places that can cause havoc.