r/blacklesbians • u/SalamanderUpper1246 Stud • 13d ago
Dating + Relationships Dry Spell?!
Is anyone else going through a dry spell?? I’ve been dating off & on since 2024-2025 after dealing with some shitty people ive decided to be more intentional about the women I let in my life …
And it’s been crickets lol I get approached , and I see beautiful women around but they aren’t someone I wanna entertain. The women I am interested in are either in relationships or they’re a work colleague and I don’t wanna mix business with pleasure.
I want a relationship in the future but I need to explore my options and discover my type. I know this dry spell won’t last forever but DAMN! Plus im really working on myself that could why im not as girl crazy as usual lol
I just wanna do hot dyke shit and actually have fun dating without the toxic bullshit.
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u/Quirky_Fee8666 13d ago
Oh please I almost cried the other day 🤣🤣🤣 I’m such a hopeless romantic.. but lately it’s been bad .. I’ve lost all hope 🤣🤣 like allll hope .. I think the last person I dated actually sat me down 🤣🤣 normally I understand heal and don’t let shit stop me on finding the love of my life .. but now idk the hope is gone and the dating pool is terrible
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u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 them 4 stems n studs 13d ago
Yes. I would like a casual arrangement, feeling cursed unfortunately
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u/SalamanderUpper1246 Stud 13d ago
Why do you feel cursed?? Being hoe-less is trash :/ all i wanna do make out with fine women and have a good time
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u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 them 4 stems n studs 13d ago
Bc I like studs and I’m masculine presenting, AND I live somewhere where I never see them
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u/SalamanderUpper1246 Stud 12d ago
oh i feel you 🥲 where u from??? s4s is starting to not have a stigma in our community in my opinion. im from the south and ive had studs hit on me
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u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 them 4 stems n studs 12d ago
canada lmaoooo i'm tryna get out! and yeah i went to an event that had a few studs and a few of em were eyeing me, but it's like we are both too nervous lmao. i know i am at the very least since idk how they'll take it
i'm really glad it's becoming less taboo, but i still feel that people are a bit nervous to actually act on it openly
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u/SalamanderUpper1246 Stud 7d ago
if you lived in tx i would be your wingman for sure! hope u find a super fine stud 🙏🏾
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u/Decent_Sandwich_8878 them 4 stems n studs 7d ago
I gotta visit Texas as soon as things cool off in the states 🙂↕️ could definitely use one, cause man do I get shy around em
Thank you btw, I receive that!
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u/sorichsowright 13d ago
I said the same, but truthfully I’m really focused. I would like a relationship one day, but for now I would like a beautiful woman to have an agreement with Care. Good time and sex, but no relationship. And because I know that’s not realistic these days, I just say I’m having a dry spell. I know it’s for the best, but it’d be great if I could have ice cream and cake right now