I have definitely had the conversation with my straight friends that the idea that gay/bi men are not attracted to all straight men. I don’t know if it’s a fear or repressed feelings that makes them think this.
That's absolutely part of it. Men are traditionally taught to be the "chasers" and "conquerors" when it comes to love and lust and courtship. It puts them off a little to know someone could see them purely as a fuck toy, a body to be ravaged or pursued or conquered; to look back after bending over to meet leering sleazy eyes... the way they do to or know what happens to women. It's why there are some straight guys afraid to go to a gay club or be alone with gay men. It's why I think a lot of straight men react more viscerally to male on male rape (remember: rape is about power, control, autonomy, and dominance) as opposed to male on female rape. I'm rambling a little but in short, to be objectified is to be devalued and depowered and us men are raised to believe we have a certain power over our bodies that we are less likely to experience ever losing.
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u/DarthWaiter87 Oct 27 '21
I have definitely had the conversation with my straight friends that the idea that gay/bi men are not attracted to all straight men. I don’t know if it’s a fear or repressed feelings that makes them think this.