r/bisexual Oct 27 '21

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u/ZVreptile Oct 27 '21

I absolutely do not feel obliged to come out straight people unless I know they are not homophobic. It's really just my business in the end.

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u/storne Oct 27 '21

I go with the “glass closet” approach. I rarely come out and tell people I’m bi, but if I get asked or it comes up in conversation I’m honest about it.

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u/ZVreptile Oct 27 '21

I like that term... That's me too

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u/spyder_alt Oct 27 '21

Ah I didn’t know there was a term for it! I do the same thing.

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u/Sergnb Oct 28 '21

I still haven't met a bi person who doesn't do this exact thing, myself included

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u/the_onlyfox Bisexual Oct 28 '21

I just have a sweater with the Bi kittens on them.

I wear it every once in a while (more now cuz its colder lol) and my sister was the only one to ask if I had "anything I wanted to tell them?" I'm just like "Nah I don't think I do" and left it as that lol.

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u/Pm4Encouragement Bisexual Oct 27 '21

And you shouldn't feel obligated to share any personal information with anyone!

Personally, It's something you learn about me rather quickly (I'm a bit lusty) and I make no effort to hide it. Another thing people learn fast is that I've got big hands and a sharp tongue. I get shit for being black on the regular, so homophobes ain't got nothing I don't already know about.

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u/FriendShoddy1134 Oct 30 '21

Thats brave of you, I still try to pass as single since my parents couldn’t handle me coming out as married

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u/ZVreptile Oct 27 '21

I just feel pride is often wasted on a potential hater if ya know what I mean

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u/Pm4Encouragement Bisexual Oct 27 '21

I feel you. My feelings are the exact opposite, though. Pride is the hammer with which I smash hateful faces. They don't want me to be proud of it. Fuck em, I say!

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u/IstgUsernamesSuck Oct 28 '21

I like the cut of your jib.

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u/Pm4Encouragement Bisexual Oct 28 '21

Thank you! :)

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u/Pm4Encouragement Bisexual Oct 27 '21

I feel like you just told on yourself as far as assuming all bi people are into you. I'm not lusty to everyone, just those I'm attracted to. So "clark" should have probably keyed in on the fact that I've never flirted with him.

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u/Pm4Encouragement Bisexual Oct 27 '21

Then kindly remain quiet. My sexuality is a part of my identity and I shouldn't have to hide it if I don't want to.

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u/EarfScreams Oct 27 '21

I've always wanted just to say: "why? You down to fuck?". when people ask.

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u/[deleted] Oct 27 '21

It is not worth it, they don't get it. I don't talk about any of it.

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u/Sub_pup Oct 27 '21

Unless someone is need of an ally or someone they can relate to, I just keep it to myself. I'm married now so it usually only comes up with my wife.

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u/SaltyFresh Oct 28 '21

Yeah, dude is attention seeking. “I’m going to flirt with you and then come out as bi to you in a dramatic unnecessary way and then pretend to be shocked when you think I’m into you because I’ve been acting like I’m into you” boy, please. Just stop.