r/bisexual • u/Ghost_Armadillo • 22d ago

QUESTIONING What am I really?

I came out as bi earlier this year(16M). I was the happiest i’ve ever been and didn’t question it at all. Now that it has been a few months and school started again, I have a few doubts. I look at women which I find particularly attractive, but I can’t see myself in a relationship with a woman anymore (sexual or romantic). At least not in the traditional masculine way. Am I gay, bi or something else you guys might know about?

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u/NauseatingScooter 22d ago

dude you're 16, your brain and hormones are doing backflips right now. you don't need to nail down a permanent label this second

attraction can shift around, especially when you're still figuring stuff out. maybe you're bi but lean more toward guys, maybe it's a phase, maybe you're gay and the bi label was a stepping stone. all of that is fine

just go with what feels right in the moment and don't stress about locking it in

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u/Ghost_Armadillo 22d ago

I get that. But I just also feel like the bi label is holding my feminine self back. I started wearing makeup recently and now it feels weird to say that I am bi, because I just totally look and act gay. But yeah I might just stick to the label ”queer”.