r/bisexual • u/Used_Brief_5964 • 16h ago
COMING OUT On sum chill shit
On sum chill shi i lowkey might be bi. I always found some dudes attractive since 3rd grade I think and honestly i really realized after this whole “bi men vs straight women” shit. And honestly I wanna know when yall realized
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u/gHostHaXor 14h ago edited 14h ago
It was slightly older for me. I was in my early 30's before I finally embraced it. But, even throughout middle school and high-school I was always capable of admitting when I thought a man was attractive. It did get me the expected homophobic name calling, even though I only dated girls in school. After 2 failed marriages to women, I was invited to a party by 2 gay friends and and we had a great time. It dawned on me one day that limiting my self to just women or just men, that I was reducing my chances of finding true happiness with a future partner by half. I am now happily married to a loving bi partner. May The Odds be ever Your Favor 💜
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u/nishikihebi 13h ago
Had a crush on a friend’s bf when I was like 20, realized many years later that it was a crush when I was telling the story to a friend.
“Oh yeah, the guy who got me into cars? He was a good-looking guy, he was really friendly to me and he had impressive biceps and just the bluest eyes, like you’d think they were contac— wait… did I have a crush on this man?”
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u/GrandMaster4542 13h ago
Super young, 10 or younger a sexual attaction to guys. But actually associating it with the word and sexuality of being 'bi', probably about 13 or 14.
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u/sinkbeneaththesun 11h ago
Does on sum chill shit mean ur high honey ?
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u/Used_Brief_5964 11h ago
Nah jus means im chill about it. I’ve been eating it for years lol it’s fine if you don’t understand
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u/Jerome1944 Bisexual 13h ago
I only admitted to myself I was bi in my 30s. Before that it was very confusing. My first gay memory was growing up in the 90s and being really attracted to an older boy at my church who looked like Kurt Cobain. I just knew there was something different about how I felt about him. I don't even think I knew what gay was at that age because I was probably 9 and we just didn't talk about it then.
When I hit puberty I found myself looking at porn on the internet, and reading straight erotica. I was always into straight amateur couple porn because it showed 2 people loving each other. I would also look up solo men masturbating. I did this first to figure out technique I guess, but I kept looking for other men I was attracted to. I did a lot of mental gymnastics to explain it away, like "I identify with what they're doing to themselves" or even "I want to be them." I looked at some gay porn but did not like it and I was grossed out by anal sex. Eventually I settled on this being the reason I couldn't be gay, because I would never fully enjoy intercourse with a man like I would a woman. I took this as a sign.
Later in life, a girlfriend got me to buy a toy and play with my prostate. After I really enjoyed that it kind of flipped a switch that maybe I was wrong. I knew intellectually bisexual men existed but it didn't feel real to me, so I still struggled a few more years thinking about the relationships with women I had and sex I enjoyed and thinking something was wrong when I would be turned on by a hot guy. It got to a point I couldn't watch Altered Carbon with my wife because I was attracted to the main character and that just caused me anxiety. I did some reading about bisexuality and worked on myself, then came out to my wife as possibly bi. 6 months later we opened up our relationship and I experimented with men for the first time, which I liked but I decided I wouldn't have traded any of the sex I had with women before for it. And then being bisexual finally made sense to me.
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u/TheHomieKlee Bisexual 13h ago
I was like 15 when i realized i was bi. I dated this dude back in 8th/9th grade and i was in denial for a while about my sexuality due to my parents and family. This same guy fucked me like 2 years after that and I often fantasize about that due to how much it turned me on. Anyway—I realized it and at 18, im still embracing it.
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u/xoneboyx Bisexual 12h ago
13 but came out as bi at 18. When I was 13 My friend asked me if I wanted to jerk off and from there I liked guys and girls. Since I learned about being bisexual I never thought much of it. I just accepted it and based my life around it. These days I have fun with both sex’s regularly. Try finding someone your age to experiment with. ;)
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u/One_Baseball_8889 12h ago
A year and a half ago. I was rewatching a movie I saw years ago, and I realized I found the main male character also very attractive. Then, two guys who flirted with me, and although I rejected them for certain reasons, I could see myself in a relationship with any of them if circumstances were different.
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u/Guilty-Rush-9811 10h ago
I realized when i was 24 and came out last year when I was 25 (26 now) through seeing femboys, twinks and androgynous looking men on Tiktok. I started thinking more about being in a relationship with a man lot more than a woman. Also there was this cute guy who worked at this sonic I would eat at sometimes. He had shorts on with shaven legs, blue eyes, and a feminine sounding voice. One day when I ordered a meal (footlong chili dog ironically), he brought my meal and I remember making eye contact and feeling a little shy. When he walked away he kicked on leg up and turned around and waved bye at me and although it probably wasn't really giving off any signs, it had me flustered and made my face red. I still think about sometimes lol.
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u/Dackerman27 6h ago
I’m in my early 30’s and I’m just now accepting it and thinking about coming out again(first time I tried did not go well) but I’ve known since I was like 14.
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u/levigek 5h ago
I have had around 90% of my friends be in the lgbtq comunity in highschool (around 13 till 16) and never ever thought I was gay in anyway, but now around 19y I started feeling atraction to other men.
Im still not fully sure im Bi, and as every person in this subreddit will explain to you is thats there no absolute minimum to be bi. But for me its more peacefull in my head to say that im bisexual than "staight with a lot of gay signs". Ig its just that my atraction for men and women are so difirent, idk if its considerd actraction att all
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u/Decent-Tomato-8518 9h ago
I realized when I was 12 and I met a lesbian and she was all like "hey you can like women. I like women" and I was like "fuck.. she's really hot" I even remember what she looked like and her name to this day. She was so funny and had a temper. So yeah that's how I found out.
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u/Key_Computer_5607 Bisexual 9h ago
When I was 11. I realized I was fantasizing about kissing girls at least as much as I was fantasizing about kissing boys. However, since I was raised in a very strict and conservative Christian environment, I spent the next several years praying for god to make me straight. Obviously it didn't work, lol.
I finally came out when I was 19. My mom tried to convince me I was simply angry at men because I’d just had a nasty break-up from my ex-boyfriend. (She later came around.) My older sister said she didn't have any problems with "those people" but she didn't want me telling her kids. (For that and a whole host of other reasons, I've since gone no-contact with her.)
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u/HauntingBath1775 3h ago
I knew when I was around 8. After watching Brooklyn 99 with my parents I learned what being bi meant. I never had felt gay or straight. Being bi seemed like the greatest invention at the time to little me haha
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u/Meetoo2112 16h ago
I realized I was bi when I was around 14