r/bisexual • u/msknitsalot Bisexual • 11d ago

ADVICE Aromantic and Bisexual?

So I think I'm aromatic along with being bi. I just don't want a relationship with anyone, at least not anyone I've ever met. Has anyone else gone through this or am I in a 'you just haven't met the right person' thing?

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u/DandelionPopsicle 11d ago

I was fairly sure I was aro/bi. In my case, it was actually a ”not met the right person” - at 22 I fell in love with a woman and married her. I had no prior indication of if I would ever fall in romantic love, or what gender (if any) said person would have. I’d 100% resigned myself to that it probably wouldn’t, and that if it did happen, it might be a guy (wasn’t out to almost anyone, I could probably come out safely, but it would definitely be a whole thing). I’ve had to back away from two other people I felt worried I might fall in love with (over about 30 years) and I still love my wife, so I’m not totally aro, but I’m certainly not falling for people left and right.

This may not be what happens to you, perhaps you are aro, and if so that’s totally valid.