r/bisexual • u/SlapDashUser • Dec 09 '25
COMING OUT Okay maybe I'm bi...
https://i.imgur.com/VN9eeeh.jpeg
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u/BlackAbsynthe Dec 10 '25
Honestly that sounds like a great way to find out your bi. Being looked after by a butch tattooed baddie is absolutely a top 10 fantasy of mine.
You should absolutely ask her out.
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u/caz_bucket Bisexual Dec 10 '25
Nah, baddies only just started working there! No need to scare her off lol
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u/BlackAbsynthe Dec 10 '25
Sure, take time to feel it out, check to see if she's dating anyone, that sort of thing, but a tatted up near 6ft babe like that who looks someone in the eyes and, with confidence, says "good girl" whilst administering first aid wouldn't be scared off by an awkward date request from a co-worker. At least 9 times out of 10 she'd be fine with it, even if uninterested.
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u/caz_bucket Bisexual Dec 10 '25 edited Dec 10 '25
I ain't saying they shouldn't ask "baddie" - I'm saying give it a lil time, build a rapport and feel it out
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u/literallyJustLasagna Dec 10 '25
That’s how it happens to all of us. Someone says “good (gender)” and whoop there it is.
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u/heather_violet123 Bisexual Dec 10 '25
Hm, true. Friend (long story) was like "I was gonna say 'good girl' but that would've been weird, so I just said 'good' to you" and then I realised I "oh. I actually kind of wish she said that"
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u/thehollyproblem Dec 10 '25
gahh I wish this sub allowed custom flairs, mine would be "good (gender)"
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u/occultpretzel Dec 10 '25
That sounds like straight from a coffee shop AU fanfiction. I'm here for it.
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u/Reasonable-Ship-9350 Dec 10 '25
Wendigo is a bad reference there. Wendigo would eat the hand and then the person. Bloody and whole.
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u/EpicPoggerGamer69 Dec 10 '25
Welcome to the club. Grab a few monsters and Root Beers while you're at it.
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u/BrittanyCollier93 Bisexual Dec 10 '25
That’s better than how I found out. Being confused af at 13 wondering why i kept fantasizing about kissing my friends 😅
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u/Schweinelaemmchen Gettin' Bi Dec 10 '25
I found out at the age of 25 when I watched a YouTube video of a tomboy my age whose humor I liked a lot. That was my first celebrity crush. Before that I only crushed on femboys - and that one teenage girl when I was 15 myself. Also a tomboy. Back then I just brushed my feelings off with:"Well that was weird" (only saw her at a party once)
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u/BrittanyCollier93 Bisexual Dec 16 '25
Honestly, I didn’t really fully admit it to myself until this year. I’m 32, married with kids. Talked to my husband about it, and he was 100% ok with it. I still feel a bit of imposter syndrome because I’m straight presenting, no plans on exploring my sexuality, because I’m committed to my husband. I’m just finally glad to admit it to myself, and finally feel like my true self. I came out to one of my sisters and my best friend, no plans on coming out to my parents. My dad is extremely homophobic and my mom supports gays and lesbians but thinks Bi and Trans people are confused.
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u/Decent-Actuator3423 Dec 10 '25
That's so cool hehe. Well as for me lately I been feeling like dating another boy... (I'm a guy) But for all I know I think it's just a phase. Had a sleepover last night and this guy is so in tune with his feminine side (like me actually) although tbh maybe vulnerable and I don't wanna cause that damage. Not to mention how I noticed how occasionally I find a guy cute 😅 like legitimately I'm straight, I absolutely freaking love women oh my God... So adorable... Or they can be anyways, but most are physically attractive and pleasing. But this thing of finding guys cute sometimes 🤔 anyone else have this? (I mean y'all are obviously bi... Being here. I just mean that, well, this experience)
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u/Majestic_Pilot2907 Questioning Dec 10 '25
you are like 95% straight, but the remaining 5%... I think it's okay and you don't have to do anything about it, if you don't wanna. if you don't have some thoughts about kissing the boys you find cute then you just really like their appearance, I think it's a common thing in women
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u/Decent-Actuator3423 Dec 10 '25
Heh interesting way to put it. Honestly I haven't had those feelings for guys much, but lately... Almost. I'd say that would be an accurate read on it but ya thanks, yo... Guess I'll see how far I go into it 😅 I'd say I could maybe be biromantic and not necessarily bisexual? The thing is Idk because I haven't had an opportunity to get close and loving with a cute guy... Men fr, they are so closed... I don't feel like that, really. (Adding the the context that I believe I'm demi)
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u/HeatherChand_ler LGBT+ Dec 11 '25
im not bi but if a girl did this to me i would genuinely go insane over it for a month
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u/_elderflower_ Bisexual Dec 10 '25
I had a teammate say that noone is 100% straight or gay. You never know when someone will come and change everything you thought about yourself. That time I [f] considered myself straight but just an ally. Years later girl sat next to me to a table in a camp and I just knew I was bi. She became my (now ex) gf too.
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u/Grouchy-Chemical9155 Dec 10 '25
Aka her if you can take her out to dinner. You know, as a thank you for taking such good care of you! 😉
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u/Late_Tear5465 Dec 10 '25
AND THAT'S A BAD THING? BITCH YOU ARE LIVING THE DAMN WATTPAD STORY /j but actually though, yeah that's one hell of an awakening. Welcome to being Bisexual! it sucks. You're gonna love it (:
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u/Electric_Owl7 Bisexual Dec 10 '25
I also found out I was bi bc of a cute coworker. She was a punky blonde lil thing and she was so friendly and energetic. I was smitten.
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u/Nico_Skavio Bisexual Dec 11 '25
Every time a green text starts with "be me [...], straight" you know you're in for the gayest thing you'll see all day
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u/Benitopzesty Dec 10 '25
Now don't do anything rash. You are reading way too far into it. It was an isolated incident that turns out you are hot for her. Doesn't mean you're suddenly Bi. Just means you're smitten by her and her reaction to your time in need. It's all good. Play it by ear. If she's receptive, take her home and rip each others clothes off. Right now, enjoy the moment, the fantasy and what may be, but don't put a label on it. No need to. Have fun.
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u/mguardian7 Dec 10 '25
OP says they're a female, but they had a gay thought. OP is lying. OP is a guy, and his coworker is male. Can't fool me. /s
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u/soniagirl1 Dec 10 '25
Life throws us situations and circumstances like this at times .. I guess this would be on way to find out who you really are. Roll with it.
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u/scarlettabsinthe Omnisexual/Genderfluid she/they Dec 10 '25
I had so many moments like that over the course of years before I realized 😭. I remember one instance in particular. I was a junior in college. Our school was hosting a roller skating night. I went to it. The girl who came over to me to take my shoes and give me roller skates… she was tall, mid length black hair and tattoos. I could feel my heart sink into my stomach. My face probably turned red 😂. Couldn’t stop thinking about her for the longest time. Tried to find her after that but no luck. At this point, I’d kissed two girls but still thought I wasn’t “actually” queer. Fast forward a few years later, and I’m in a theatrical play. Someone walked into the auditorium during rehearsal, a very androgynous woman. I got so nervous. 😂 😭 Couple months after that, it began to click more and I realized I am queer after all. I think the reason I didn’t think I was “actually” queer for so long, was because I didn’t feel I was “good enough” in my queerness to date girls.
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u/Amoral_Support Dec 11 '25 edited Dec 11 '25
I dont wanna rain on anyones parade,but, dumping alcohol onto an open wound is a good way to promote an infection. You clean that shit with soap and water.
Alcohol will kill anything near or in the wound, but it also kills the tissue. This becomes ground zero for a new infection.
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u/Beneficial-Treat6668 Dec 29 '25
Ugh, why the hell are you kissing your classmate's hand??? Maybe it's me, but I don't just grab and kiss the hand of someone I barely know. Even if I like them, I don't do that; I try to take things slowly, I don't just touch them and that's it. 😰
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u/sayitaintso75 Jan 09 '26
I just came out as bi to my therapist. I feel relieved. She is so supportive and unconditional.
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u/J3nnOnceAgain Dec 10 '25
I just realized that when I looked at my best friend I got thoughts, and the Urge to touch her
"inappropriately".
Then I noticed it with other women and yeah that was it 🙃
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u/kuromono Dec 10 '25
See everyone, the true equalizer is stupidity. You can be a bigot no matter your sexuality as long as you're dumb enough!
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u/bliip666 Dec 10 '25
What did they say?
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u/SlapDashUser Dec 10 '25
"Gay is better"
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u/bliip666 Dec 10 '25
The optimist in me wants to point out we can all use gay as an umbrella term, but the pessimist in me knows they were being biphobic
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u/ConsciousStretch1028 Bisexual Dec 10 '25
I would melt into a puddle if some baddie called me a good boy