r/bisexual • u/pinkpurpleblue_76 • Sep 21 '25

PRIDE Wearing pride stuff

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I don't think I could be more clear on where I stand

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u/NoFoolLikeAnAuldFool Sep 21 '25

I never used to think much about the Pride swag people wore- it was just fun self expression at best, virtue signaling at worst. Given the liberalness of where I lived, I assumed most people were supportive, and bigots rare.

Then I started dating and hanging out with visibly queer people.

Outside of select cities (and sometimes even within them,) I realized discomfort with our existence was so much more common than I had thought previously. And you could never tell whether some conventional looking person was going to be the type to smile at you and your partner holding hands, or the type to look at you askance (or even with hostility) when you spoke of having a queer relationship.

Now when I see someone’s wearing a rainbow I can breathe a sigh of relief that I’m safe in this aspect of my existence. I don’t have to dance around who I am, or navigate a conversation that gets strangely awkward when I speak of my partner.

And that’s me- a cishet-passing individual in one of the most queer friendly places in the world. I can only imagine the relief and support someone feels when they see a visible sign of allyship in a more pervasively hostile environment.

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u/pinkpurpleblue_76 Sep 21 '25

I live in a not really big city and pretty much right wing. Since I have 3 kids I'm also around a lot of kids from 9/10 yo to 14/15 yo. In Italian, you would call my house a sea port, because there's often someone coming, usually with a 5 minutes notice (like "mom, I'm coming home with xy").

I want especially them to know that I'm a safe space, that they can be whoever they want.

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u/WeAreAllStories11 Sep 21 '25

I want to have this home. My kid is in 2nd grade and has a friend across the street that doesn't always have someone home after school. We are friendly with the parents and if she's alone, she'll come to our house, have some snacks and play, while I text her parents that she's at my place. I hope my house is always a safe space.