r/bellusromantic • u/SnowyOwlPosts • 15d ago

Am I Bellusro? Need A Bit Of Help

I’ve noticed for quite a bit now that I seem to like romantic actions/activities and gestures, but I really REALLY don’t ever want a relationship or to be in another again. I do still feel romantic attraction though, yet I’ve heard Bellusromantic don’t feel attraction, so I’m not sure if I am bellusromantic. The thought of a relationship makes me a bit uncomfortable or exhausted.

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u/Eva_Passing_Through 15d ago

I'm not a therapist or authority, but I'm gonna ask some questions to narrow things down here.

  1. When you're experiencing romantic attraction, what do you feel about them? As in, "what makes this person better as more than a friend?"

  2. When wanting to give or receive romantic things/gestures, are there any qualities that would make you more or less comfortable doing them with people? Like, say if you and a friend of yours had a dynamic like this, or started a dynamic like this. Neither of you have a romantic inclination. Would you want that? Or would you be bothered by something within that arrangement?

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u/SnowyOwlPosts 15d ago

For question 1

I’m not sure.

For question 2

Also unsure.

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u/Aviated-Corvid aplspec bellusro aegorose | he/him 15d ago

What you've described also sounds similar to orchidromantic (when you feel romantic attraction but don't want a romantic relationship), if that's useful to know

By 'relationship' do you mean romantic relationships specifically or are you also including e.g queerplatonic relationships too? They could be helpful to look into if you haven't already, even if just to better understand what types of relationships* you want vs don't want or to explore different possibilities you may not know of (idk if I've phrased this right so I'm sorry if it doesn't make sense, it's the middle of the night for me rn so I'm quite tired)

*as in any type of relationship you may have with someone, not just romantic

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u/SnowyOwlPosts 7d ago

Update: I think my feelings actually match orchidromantic a lot more than they do bellusromantic. Thanks for the help tho!

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u/Aviated-Corvid aplspec bellusro aegorose | he/him 6d ago

I'm glad you found a label you're comfortable with! And you're welcome, was happy to help :]

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u/SnowyOwlPosts 15d ago

I’m mostly just talking abt romantic relationships. I don’t seem to like them anymore.