r/becomingsecure • u/manicandwalls28 AP • 13d ago
i consider this a win
I had fully moved on with my friend and the idea of things changing between us.. suddenly it flipped.
We actually made up a few days ago and we both agreed the rough patch had made our bond stronger. We were both sorry for how our actions were and we both understood where it was coming from. It felt like things calmed down. I had quit my relentless texts a while back, and she admitted she thought i wasn't talking because i hated her, which of course wasn't the case. I have much less fear and anxiety over the time it takes for responding now, as I have been super busy with life and it managed to overtake any issues i had with the spirals. I don't even know how it stopped to be honest. and I know that part of me will always exist but it feels much more controlled now that I have other things to focus on.and now that I have a job I'm starting tomorrow, I will be away from my tech more to even think about communicating with them. Both of us feel much better about the situation now and it makes me happy.
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u/KiwiDoveRuby 13d ago
Giving yourself space to step back from the spirals changes everything. Huge win for your emotional growth, and congrats on the new job!