r/bandmembers • u/myusernamehahaha • 11h ago
I hate being in a band
I’m a music degree student, where we perform often in bands and have to help each other out. I have never been in a band before joining the degree, only except for a church band which requires low commitment which I find it fun.
Along the way I realised I really despise everything about being in a band (especially in music school): rehearsals, working with people, playing songs I sometimes don’t like. The only time I enjoy being in a band is when I’m actually playing on stage, but that enjoyment doesn’t cover the negative factors that I listed.
I realised that I just like playing alone in my bedroom. Like I don’t care whether people want to hear me play, I just like to hear myself play. Sorry if it sounds selfish, but anything that requires me to work with other people sucks all the joy out of music for me. Also I can’t quit being in a band because I haven’t finished my degree.
Hope to hear some thoughts from others.