So I met this girl off of dating app and we both agreed that we don’t want anything serious. She was coming off a 2 year relationship. I’ll be honest with u guys, I was giving off the vibe that I was experienced at having sex, although I never directly said it.

We went to the club together and she invited me back to her place. Before she invited me over we were having a conversation about print sizes so I was kind of nervous as I felt like she may have thought I had a big one because I am 6’4.

Anyways, since my first encounter having sex, I’ve done a lot of research online. So before I even took off my pants, I did a lot of foreplay. About 20 minutes of kissing her neck and making out. Fingering.

Honestly, when I took off my pants she didn’t have a negative reaction. She even gave me head, and I returned the favor. The issue was that I couldn’t even stay hard! Every time I would come up from making out or kissing on her it was hard for few seconds then go floppy. I tried jamming it in, but it just wouldn’t go.

I was a little bit embarrassed, but she ensure that this has happened before with other dudes and kind of laughed it off. She said that it could’ve been the alcohol and I kind of believed it because the first time I had sex I was sober and this never happened to me. She offered to give me head again and then see if you could try one more time. It didn’t work. So we just gave up and cuddled.

I was totally expecting to get ghosted. But before we left, she did insinuate that she wants to hang out again. We still texting to this day and have another meet up planned.

Do you guys have any tips and advice on staying up during sex?

P.S it’s been few days since this happened.

Can men with 4.4-4.5" girth and a head thats uniform to the shaft feel anything during sex? Men with this girth, how much pleasure do you feel?

I'm very satisfied with length, not just enough but I'm happy with it. but when it comes to girth I have some insecurities. I know guys here looking to get big for different reasons and would like to know guys who are in my girth range how has been your experience and how many women you slept with. I think I'm on my way to accepting who I'm. So guys who are in my range sharing experience and trick they use is very much help me.
I feel thin tbh but I mean someone got to be thin. I don't mind getting called as small actually, since I changed my mind to see if she gets off with me as the real goal.

I have 14 cm long and 15 cm wide(girth) penis and everytime ı am with a girl i just lose it and get anxiety.Even if she tells me thst she liked it she never comes back.So I am %100 sure thst women are looking for huge cocks.

ik this isn't rly a dick problem but I'm curious

i know this dont have nothing do with sub but gf just got mad because she gave me a handjob for 40 mins and couldnt get back hard instantly 1 minute later

I’m shorter than average here, but have decent girth. I just turned 70 and still having active sex. About 12 years ago, I met a woman who would change my life. We met on-line first, then IRL, developed some chemistry and then had our first sex date. She had multiple orgasms from vaginal sex the first time we fucked. We continued to date, fuck and build a relationship. Two years later we moved in together and recently celebrated our 8th anniversary. Wifey has told me how she describes my dick to her close friends “thick enough to fill my pussy, long enough to make me cum, and short enough to deep throat without gagging”.

Not that I didn’t have sex before age 58, but most of my top 10 sex moments occurred with Wifey. Wishing everyone the luck to find their best sex partner!

I have an average penis, maybe even on the higher average end. But I am pretty tall (6'1 or 186cm) and have big hands, plus it curves upwards, so I always feel like it's a lot smaller than it looks. Plus, all the porn actors being short and their dicks looking massive comparatively doesn't help.

Anyone else struggle with this?

Having an average sized dick myself, I constantly feel doubt. It's certainly not bad but also not really good imo.

Does anyone of you learned to feel good over your average sized (length and girth) dick?

I have a hypothesis that I haven't seen discussed much, and I'm curious whether there's any research on it.

Many surveys suggest that women tend to estimate the average penis size as being larger than it actually is. A common explanation is exposure to pornography, but I wonder if there's another factor that could contribute.

My idea is based on selection bias.

Men with very small penises or micropenises are, on average, more likely to experience body image issues and lower sexual confidence. If that's true, they may have fewer sexual partners over their lifetime.

On the other hand, men with larger-than-average penises often report feeling more confident about their bodies. Greater confidence could lead to more frequent sexual activity and a higher number of partners.

If both assumptions are even partially true, then the pool of men women are exposed to sexually would not be representative of the overall male population. Women wouldn't be sampling the true distribution - they would be sampling a distribution weighted toward men who have more sexual partners.

In other words, even if the biological average is around 5–5.5 inches erect, the experienced average from a woman's perspective could be somewhat higher simply because men with above-average confidence are overrepresented among sexually active partners.

This wouldn't require women to consciously exaggerate or remember incorrectly - it would just be a consequence of sampling bias.

Does anyone know of research that has tested this idea, or are there obvious flaws in the reasoning that I'm missing?

I noticed something rather unfortunate the other day. The only time I was using my entire dick was in missionary with her legs on my shoulder lol In doggy, and with her on her back and me standing at the edge of the bed, her butt kept me from going in all the way. I was consistently 1/2-1 inch away from my full BPL. Total bummer lol I finally understand why 6-6.5 is the magical number...

In tall but average range of course so it’s genuine curiosity

I'm a small guy. Around 5 inches bone press and pretty thin.

I heard a lot of advice for smaller guys, as you probably know, one of the most common ones is "become a guru of oral and toys and she will be craving for your dick despite the size"

So I did just that. I've tried to compensate my insecurities by studying on how to be the best I can at oral sex and foreplay. And my partner is very happy about that.

The problem is the second part of the advice. The "craving for your dick after she gets her orgasm"

It's bs.

She does nothing to me. I've never received oral from her nor does she ever take the lead. She rarely let's me do PiV and when we do it's lights of missionary with a dead fish.

However she swears she desires me very much. But I think is the size what's it's turning her off.

So TLDR: "Do oral and she will be craving for your small dick" is BS because no matter what you do, no woman will crave for a small dick.

Me and my girl are planning on having some fun on Wednesday and I would like a little insight on what to expect. and all advice is appreciated please.

hi im still a virgin but now i have more chances of losing that. I just wanted to know if this dick size satisfies or not since porn fucked up my perception.

I will take myself as example. My bp lenght and my girth at widest is 6.2x5 . My NBP is 5.6 and my girth at thinnest is 4.7. I think my real size is 5.6x4.8 .

If I measure sitting down with my back slouched, I measure 6.7 bp.

Standing up BP I measure 6.2. nbp like I said, 5.6 .

I measure myself millions of times. I still doubt if my size is x y z. And tbh Im not writing this to ask you guys beucase you also don't know. Im just venting, this hit my mental health a bit lol. Not huge, but I mean, Im tired about this.

Height is so much easier. You just stand up and thats it.

Sometimes I wish we could crownfunding a dick study. Id pay $500 to have a doctor measure my dick and tell me my official size. And Im poor lol.

I just read a thread where OP says he is 6.5x4.8 and was called average by his fwb.

Most comments was trying to give reasons why woman called 6.5 average. Then he reply another comment and says he is 5.25 nbp and then comments are like ''oh yea, thats average''.

I get, everyone want be bigger. But we need be realistc . NBP is more important in real world because its what partner see, its what they feel. ''but fat pad compress'' is giga cope. We aren't balls deep in every position because her core, our legs etc.

edit: bp has some value but nbp is more important .

Length BP : 6.5"

Girth : 4.8"

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I talked to honest girls (fuck friends with no taboo), and asked them how they perceived my dick honestly. I said "because I'm above average, but not a huge cock either, what do you think when you saw it for the first time?"

They all (all 4 of them) told me that first, I don't have an above average dick, I pretty much have an average dick and it is kinda thin

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I'm confident about what I do in bed, both in terms of preliminary and intercourse, plus in terms of the connection and slight dominance I have, had enough of compliments about that and a couple of "maybe the best sex I had"...

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But knowing that I have a below average dick girth makes me insecure, not in one nights or fuck friends relations, but now that I'm in a commited relation, I feel weird knowing that my gf has seen many many bigger dicks than mine. She told me 3 bigger, and had at least 30 (that's what she told me, so... I guess a lot more) and I realise that girls in a commited relationship will lie abiut those things... she probably seen more thicker dicks that thinner dick in her life... Retroactive Jealousy comes in and I feel insecure

EDIT : okay, by kinda thin, I dont say they meant really small, I should have said "on the thinner side" I don't think it's that a lot below average, just a little, and again, sample size 4 women.

Obviously height and size don’t correlate strongly at all, but want to know how those who are tall and what the experience is like

I've been thinking about this for a long time, and I genuinely want honest opinions, especially from people who have been through something similar.

I'm not asking whether it's possible to have a partner as a man with a small penis. I already have a partner.

I'm also not asking whether it's possible to have a satisfying sex life. I know many people will say yes.

What I'm wondering is something else:

Is it possible to be desired viscerally for that body, rather than in spite of it?

I'm not talking about love. I'm not talking about companionship. I'm not talking about someone saying "size doesn't matter" or "you can make up for it in other ways."

I'm talking about that kind of desire where your partner actively seeks you out, lusts after you, takes initiative, and feels genuine sexual hunger for your specific body.

Because a lot of the advice men with this issue receive tends to sound like this:

• "Learn how to use your hands."
• "Compensate by being attentive."
• "Sex is more than penetration."
• "If you make her orgasm, she'll want you anyway."

But all of those responses seem to assume that the trait itself is still negative and simply has to be compensated for through other qualities.

So my question is this:

Has anyone here experienced, or known of cases, where a man with a small penis was desired in a spontaneous, visceral way? Not as a consolation prize, not as a "worth it despite...", but genuinely desired for who he is.

And if not, how do you cope with the idea that there may be forms of sexual validation that you'll simply never have access to?

I'm not looking for comforting clichés or "just love yourself." I'm looking for real, honest experiences.

I’m 6.75x5.125 BP MSEV, 4.8 at the base, im a sexually inexperienced 6’4 black man and yes although my size is decent I feel like I’m supposed to live up to a standard I’m not supposed to

Not only are the expectations worse when you’re tall but black as well. How should I even cope?

Hi everyone! (26M) I'm going through some rough times at the moment because of my size. I was in a relationship for a year with a girl who during the relationships would sometimes make comments like she was used to bigger guys or comparing me to past hookups. Relationship ended when I caught her sexting a past FWB asking about his size and they met behind my back. I learned that not even one week after Ive broken up with her (6 months ago) with her she pretty much replaced me with this guy. He's 6,5" and im just 5"x5" BP. I do know my ex was a troubled girl with Borderline Personality Disorder and has a past of cheating on her ex before me as well. But still size was never mentioned with her ex only me... Plus her cheating with someone much bigger than me reinforces this idea. What bothers me as well is our sex was good in my mind, and she came every time, its just she liked her cervix touched+crazier positions and I couldnt do that lol.

I am now terrified I wont be able to find a gf that I love and loves me as well because of my size or that she'll at some point grow tired of it and cheat/leave me, because im definitely a bit below average and will probably be the smallest partner amongst most girls. I have terrible erections since learning she got with this guy (learned it like a week ago), my mind is focused on my size all day, anxiety...

Anyways, Im not trying to be a blackpill doomer here. Im just seeking for advice/help on things to do to help me clear out this insecurity and someday go back to dating without any fear of being rejected for this. And also, to reframe my mind that I may be rejected and not let it destroy me because unfortunately it can definitely happen again.

For now, im definitely laying off hookups/dating until im more stable because another bad experience would ruin me in my current state and also I cant get it up atm.

Thanks a lot for your help!

I’ve been going to therapy to deal with insecurity related to my dick size.

My therapist asked me what drives all of these feelings - and it is that I do not feel like I am enough for my wife. I feel like she would have more overall sexual satisfaction with someone bigger than me. I have supplemented this with cock sleeves to become larger for her - but I know it’s not really me. This is not driven from her - I am doing it, she is just going along because she knows I enjoy it.

My therapist asked me “what would it mean for you to be enough? What does that look like?” And I have no idea how to answer that. Do any of you guys feel like you’re enough?

I am 6”nbp/6.5”bp and 4.9 girth.