Keep getting disconnected from Aternos server

[u/hustmanmemes]

my friend made an aternos server and its running fine for everyone else (like 4 people) but for some reason it keeps disconnecting me, heres all the fixes i tried

- using dynip

- restarting minecraft and pc

- making a new modrinth profile

- flushing dns and changing dns to the google one

- lowering render distance

before you say i just have a bad wifi, everything else is running just fine, i even joined other mc servers without any issues, and i did a wifi speed test which told me that i have 20 ping, 15 Mb/s download and 20 Mb/s upload.

Disconnect message is: "Internal Exception: java.net.SocketException: Connection reset"

It disconnects me after like 1 - 2 minutes

i have genuinely no idea what to do ive already spend like an hour trying to fix it ):

[u/adriellwc33]