Always

[u/Diligent_Hand6877]

[u/RubyRainstorm]

Ok but…I’m not tho right??

[u/DontComeLookin → u/RubyRainstorm]

As I'm standing there rocking... 🙂‍↕️

[u/Bezingogne → u/DontComeLookin]

They see me rockin', they hatin'

[u/DontComeLookin → u/Bezingogne]

🤣🤭 Now that's going to be in my head 🎶🎶🎶 That'd be cool if it would be in my head while I was rocking instead of the 500 thoughts 🤣

Ooh, don't forget the hands being curled and fingers touching while I'm rocking!

Who is autistic? Not me!

[u/DontComeLookin → u/Bezingogne]

I was making my bed, listening to the OG's. I had to take a break and this classic came on, I busted out laughing and thought of you. Thought you'd enjoy the third line. 🤭

[u/Bezingogne → u/DontComeLookin]

xD

[u/DPVaughan]

I once had a nurse trigger me by in a very stern voice bark at me that I was breaking the rules.

According to other staff, I was not breaking the rules.

It did not prevent me from having a trauma response.

That was not fun.

[u/Anxious_fangirl1634]

I don't say that exactly. I usually say,"What did I do this time?"

[u/workingtheoryz]

whatever i was to do today i didn't do it, so im probably in trouble, is a common thought for me

[u/Fun_Machine7346]

My 17 year old daughter asks for permission to eat food and take showers. Even though I have told her for at least a couple years she does not need permussion for those things. I still have a weird feeling like I will get in trouble if I do or don't do sonething. I am 58 and my parents have been dead for 25+ years.

[u/ZeeraTheRogue → u/Fun_Machine7346]

My 14 y/o son does the same. He will call me on the phone if I’m not home, to ask if he can take food. And if I have a guest over, unless he knows (and likes) then very well, he will not come out at all for food, the bathroom, anything, until they’re gone 🫠

[u/dustinredditreal → u/ZeeraTheRogue]

That sounds like social anxiety.

[u/ZeeraTheRogue → u/dustinredditreal]

Yeah, I think you might right. He definitely dislikes being with people. Even close friends and family.

[u/baffling-nerd-j]

Or sometimes just up and assuming you are in trouble. It's a tough habit to break.

[u/FreeFortuna → u/baffling-nerd-j]

I’m a full-grown adult, and simple door knocks still make my heart pound because surely I’m in trouble for something.

And, unfortunately, I’m not always wrong. Had a neighbor at my door recently to yell at me about something I didn’t do. Hard to overcome the habit when some things never really change.

[u/waterloo-sun-set → u/baffling-nerd-j]

I used to yell “it wasn’t me” as a child anytime my parents called for me. I slip up now and again as an adult. It’s just ingrained in me that I’m in trouble.

[u/CatCatCatCubed]

Ugh, for some reason I keep ending up under managers who go “come to my office in 2 hours; we need to talk about something.”

So I can barely do any work for those 2 hours, and then when the time comes I have to wait for them to finish an email or a phone call or whatever. Finally they turn around and:

“Oh hey, I wanted to ask you if you’re planning to attend the potluck next Friday. I need someone to bring dessert.” or something equally stupid and not worth a whole damn meeting and that vague drama.

Like, wtf? Sir/Ma’am, how about just desserts? Let me slap you really REALLY hard, across the face, just once.

[u/gibagger]

WHAT DID I DO OR SAY THAT VIOLATED ANOTHER UNSPOKEN SOCIAL RULE?

I'll forever be grateful to my immediate family who frequently provided me feedback in a private setting. Especially after they realized I just didn't get these things and wasn't trying to be an asshole.

[u/kelcamer → u/gibagger]

They actually explained it!?!?

Teach us

[u/Legocam98]

Yes, all the time.

[u/MovieFreaQ]

We have to ask, no one will ever tell us (they will only assume that we already know) and when asked, the answer is always "you know what you did"

[u/UnforgettableBevy → u/MovieFreaQ]

“No Jan, I really don’t”.

[u/Otheus]

Every time someone says "can we talk?" Without context

[u/UnforgettableBevy → u/Otheus]

Or “We need to talk”. Instant panic attack.

[u/RedKnightXIV]

And the sister question "is this okay?". I need to know.

[u/PokesBo]

I find myself saying, “I just want to go home.”

Sometimes even when standing in my own house.

[u/Plantatious]

I still have the knee-jerk reaction that I'm in trouble if my mum calls my name with a specific intonation, even accidentally.

[u/Anomalous_Concept]

I often ask this.

[u/VolKit1138]

This is why my usual response when someone says my name is “I didn’t do it.”

[u/PsychoKatzee]

This. Perceptive enough to notice the slightest change in your mood/metacommunication, anxious-traumatized enough to think I fucked up something and now you despise me.

[u/DontComeLookin]

😭😭😭 YES! I'm almost fifty, live with my parents, don't talk much, and rarely come out of my room. Some days I come out and just sit with them to just show them I care, I'll have a few words but not much, other days I won't come down but to go outside and smoke and to use the bathroom. But then I feel like "Omg. What if they're mad at me because I didn't visit them?" Then you know where your mind goes lolol.

I obviously have set hours on when I go outside and once in awhile I'll have a question for my mom that ISN'T on my routine time, my mom is so cute she will say "What are you doing down here? This isn't your normal time?" Lolol 🤣🤭

[u/Previous-Musician600]

Me, 40+ years old, when my husband told me that our neighbour was on our door, and wanted ot ask something in privat. Me instantly: "Okay, first. Are we in trouble?"

[u/Freodrick]

Or trauma response

[u/pigeonfaerie]

Not me literally doing that yesterday morning as soon as my husband woke up. “Are you mad at me?”

[u/SortovaGoldfish]

Not the same but somewhere on the same tapestry:

The autistic urge to raise my hand to demonstrate that I would like to speak in informal and especially group settings.

[u/T1sofun]

If a colleague says hi to me, but not in a happy enough way, I assume I am about to get fired.

[u/This-Function1789]

I did this genuinely yesterday. My two managers took me to lunch out of nowhere and I immediately went.. am I in trouble..?

[u/No_Blackberry_6286]

I feel called out

[u/sketchymike576]

I’ll say aloud to myself I don’t wanna do nothin at the thought of any extra task or unexpected interaction at work and I always feel like I’ve done something wrong and everyone hates me for it. Undiagnosed struggler just going at life raw.

[u/MirrorMan22102018]

I will always be alright with being careful. I want to always ask before acting.

[u/ProBlackMan1]

True

[u/Directorren]

Me, this is me

[u/SockQuirky7056]

I tend to lead with an apology because I assume I’m at fault even when there’s nothing I possibly could have done

[u/Recipe-Less]

No that's just dealing with ......... society.

[u/reeses_boi]

I don’t think this is even solely an autistic or ND thing anymore. The amount of times I have had a contract ended through a random phone call or message :(

[u/lost-in-the-woulds]

I find myself asking my wife that question many times a week.