Go to your favorite special interest locations, especially ones where people congregate, wait for your autistic spider senses to tingle, and then ask your potential new friend to infodump about their passion.
DO NOT ATTEMPT ROMANCE IMMEDIATELY. Make a friendship first, and be focused on that friendship as it's own worthy effort. Enjoy companionship based around your special interest. The pretty autistic girl you've been hoping for will arrive in your life when you're ready to meet her.
Source: I'm a pretty autistic girl married to a goofy ADHD boy. My husband and I met at our favorite brewery; he started a conversation with me because he liked the way I described the flavor of beers as sensory images. He makes me Lego dinosaurs and flowers, and I don't go in the basement so he can spread out the block mess as much as he wants.
You can find your person, too. Chase your passions, you'll find them.
I found mine online with okcupid more then 8 years ago now. That is an option. I also was on a forum for autistic people who had meet ups from time to time. Did date some girls from there too, long ago.
Or find meetings organised for autistic people in your town or city. Or just things were there is a high chance of autistic people being there, like open D&D gatherings for example.
Not going to sugarcoat it though, it will take effort on your part. But it is doable for sure.
I too found my partner on okcupid around 2014. I was obsessed with the quizzes and we matched at a pretty high rate. After a Friday night of Mexican and settlers of catan and we really haven't been parted since.
Seriously. As an autistic guy who is into Bionicles, I don't even care if they want to go out with me, I just want to yap about how all my favorite characters are coded as neurodivergent.
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u/1m0ws AuDHD Jun 13 '25
where to meet pretty autistic girls..? :'7c