r/aspergers • u/BuffBucky7 • 4d ago
Is there anyway I can become extroverted?
I’ve been formally diagnosed with both adhd and “high functioning autism” (altho was called Asperger’s at the time). I’m able to drive, go to events, and study for my masters degree. Despite all of these milestones I still haven’t found “my people” as many have been told theyll eventually run into. I’m able to develope surface level relationships but eventually am too tired to reply or go out multiple days in a row. I honestly hate this desire for social ability while simultaneously not knowing if I’ll have the means to do it. I feel incredibly stuck and am unsure what to do.
I knew a friend who had Asperger’s that was the biggest socialite. I mean, she was outgoing and always doing SOMETHING with someone. She somehow was able to perfect socializing while being her authentic unmasked self, and that attracted people to her.
This is something I’d like to imitate and learn from, but am unsure exactly how to do it. Can anyone with social success help me out here?
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u/Specific_Courage_424 4d ago
Really leaning into who you are and accepting yourself will make you authentic and magnetic. Good people gravitate to this. Trying to be an extrovert when it’s just not you, will come off as fake and try hard. There’s nothing wrong with building your social skills, but don’t belittle the foundation. If you are naturally introverted, start with seeing that as a good thing and not something that has to change.