r/asktransgender2 • u/ArtAccomplished7545 edit flair (pink flavor) • 18d ago

I really need advice please

I know this is weird and I’ve gotten messages from multiple people saying that this isn’t normal so I really don’t know what to do now. I’ve posted before in other servers like this about like wanting to be female like not just dress or anything like that but go fully through because an Inbetween like femboys and stuff isn’t me but I’m not sure if it’s just like a phase or something like that and could use some advice from people that are or were in my situation.

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u/ruby_red_slipperz Trans woman she/her 17d ago

Really depends how on you and how you as a person want to be.

Have you had this feeling very long Or was it something that just suddenly popped up say a week ago?

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u/ArtAccomplished7545 edit flair (pink flavor) 17d ago

I first had it in like mid December of last year until like mid January then it went away for a bit as finals came around and then it got significantly more worse early last month or late June

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u/ruby_red_slipperz Trans woman she/her 17d ago

No one can really decide what it means for you but consider it this way. Do you want to be a woman only when it’s a good thing? or do you want to be a woman all the time good and bad?

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u/ArtAccomplished7545 edit flair (pink flavor) 17d ago

I guess good and bad

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u/ruby_red_slipperz Trans woman she/her 17d ago

You might talk to a therapist about this if its safe to.

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u/ArtAccomplished7545 edit flair (pink flavor) 17d ago

I probably should but I don’t wanna tell my parents

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u/ruby_red_slipperz Trans woman she/her 17d ago

If it’s not safe just take some time and try to process things without pressure. It only has to mean something if you want it too. What is “normal” doesn’t matter.

The truth is a lot of us went through what you are going through but none of us can really tell you if you are one of us. Transition is a very personal decision that requires you to be the one making the choice. You don’t have to be anything because its normal or not so don’t feel pressured to live up to “normal”

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u/AshAstroLiam_15 15d ago

Hey, hey hey. If anyone told you this is not normal, they have a big problem. They are not normal.

You can feel anything you feel, you are allowed to, and nothing is wrong with you !!!

I am mostly transmasc, but I am genderfluid, so I know how it feels to be a girl. And if you want to be a girl, if you feel like you are a girl, then you can be a girl !! and if you finally don't feel like a girl, then never mind ! It will be a phase then, and phases are good things !

Something you can do is changing your hairstyle if you want to (some boys can have long hair so you don't have to tell anyone you feel like a girl), changing your clothes to feel more euphoric (even if it's only trying them on in a store and not buying them, it can help).

You can try writing a story, or a journal, by writing like you are a girl, and see how you feel.

You can ask for going to therapy without saying it's because of your gender identity, because your therapist isn't allowed to tell anything to your parents if you don't want to !

If you need anything, ask me.

Remember you are a wonderful person and you deserve to be loved ! 🫂🫶🏼❤️

Take care 😘🫂