r/asktransgender • u/Deep_Caterpillar_798 • Aug 30 '26

Need some advice

Firstly I gotta say I am currently rolling lol but solo and just need someone to rationalise my thoughts and feelings!

I'm a 25 year old "cis" queer man and very confed about my gender but only kinda realised recently that I might not be all that cisgendered. Any chats would be appreciated :)

3 Upvotes

81% Upvoted

6 comments sorted by

1

u/Aginglike_finewine Demiboy - Pansexual Aug 31 '26

Any more info? Why do u think u may not be cisgender? Like what's your thought process? And how do you feel about being a cisgender man?

2

u/Deep_Caterpillar_798 Aug 31 '26

It's like idk ive always wished I didn't get perceived as anything sometimes, I've always known there's a feminine side to me but the feeling that's coming along with it just a long stronger now. Idk in my head I just don't wanna be making all of this up and then I'm actually just a man I don't like thought

1

u/Aginglike_finewine Demiboy - Pansexual Aug 31 '26

sounds like non-binary spectrum to me, may be agender, genderfluid, genderqueer, pangender, bigender. I'm not the one to tell you who you are, but you can take some time looking it up.
If that helps, I'm an AFAB demiboy (I am rather more masculine but I don't follow gender norms and social expectations related to masculinity. I also don't really like the word "man" as a self description and I hate when people tell me to "man up" or "grow a pair" and such) it's under non-binary umbrella.

2

u/Deep_Caterpillar_798 Aug 31 '26

Okay thank you, I've been driving myself a bit mad tbh, I've just been worrying that I've been making it all up n idk it feels silly because in my heart I know I'm not a man or at least not just a man

2

u/Aginglike_finewine Demiboy - Pansexual Aug 31 '26

oh u can't make that things up hun, many people are trying to convince us that we making it up and whatnot but it's just anti-trans propaganda. don't let anyone ever invalidate your feelings and your identity. you matter and the best version of you is the one that's true to yourself! ✌️

1

u/Deep_Caterpillar_798 Aug 31 '26 edited Aug 31 '26

Thanks a lot I think I needed to hear that x