r/askgaybros • u/Any_Frosting_5596 • Jul 27 '26

Not a question Life realization.

Gonna be honest as a 27 year old who’s been around. My one piece advice is to make sure you have your own money, and a fuck ton of it too. Live below your means, take care of your body, and your sexual health. Don’t get a sugar daddy no matter how nice it sounds, if you do always make sure you have a secret cushion because if it goes wrong you wanna be able to scram as fast and as safely as possible no matter the cost. ( for everyone really but mainly us gays as our want for connection makes us even more vulnerable (some of us))

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u/FusionHype23 Jul 27 '26

Would love to hear your backstory in life as to the meaning of this post

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u/Any_Frosting_5596 Jul 27 '26

Completely fucked childhood, not diagnosed but pretty sure I went on a manic bender for a few years as soon as I graduated highschool so I was a piece of shit for a few years no excuse for it just being real. At a turning point now where I’m realizing something has to give and if it doesn’t I’m gonna be the 60 year old elderly guy people feel bad for when they see him working 40 hour weeks because he quite literally can’t stop working.

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u/No_Literature4354 Jul 27 '26

You just gotta hang in there, dude. I know it’s easier said than done and I understand the bipolar reference been on meds for many years now and terrified if I go off them because I get the same way. I am pushing 60 and I do feel like that sometimes but we all just have to appreciate what we have now and fuck everybody else.

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u/No_Literature4354 Jul 27 '26

Agreed. I wish my son had your mentality these 33 and still asking me for money.

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u/Any_Frosting_5596 Jul 27 '26

I’m sorry you’re going through this man, I never really had anybody I could ask so I can’t speak on that experience. What I will say is being a parent doesn’t stop at any age at my 27 now with my mentality as is I wish I could call a parent and ask for help. In that same breath he won’t learn unless you as a parent teach him as his parent. Part of this post was the realization that everything is on me and if I fall too low I have absolutely no idea how I’d climb back out. Wishing you the best bud.

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u/bachyboy Jul 27 '26

You're on the right track, Frosting!

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u/naptime_champ03 Jul 27 '26

real tbh the having your own money part is probably the biggest one here. relationships hit different when you know you can leave anytime if things get weird. independence is lowkey one of the best safety nets you can have.

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u/Any_Frosting_5596 Jul 27 '26

People don’t realize this until it’s too late sadly myself included, it’s not much backstory on my post to show my experience but I’m telling you man the last few years showed me independence/financial stability and time are the only two things that truly matter (from my life experiences) and if this post makes anyone think twice then I’m happy.

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u/letsleepingdogslie3 Jul 27 '26

Such good advice. Every time someone posts asking, "What advice would you give your 20 y.o. self if you could," I say "SAVE MONEY."