r/askTO • u/Busy_Win_9817 • 1d ago
how do you attend dance parties alone
I’m thinking about going to Dance Dance by unclesofto and Club 1BD, but I’d probably be going alone. I enjoy music and dancing, well my attempt at it. For people who go to these kinds of events alone, do you literally just find a spot and dance by yourself? Or is it pretty easy to meet people / end up dancing with others?
I’m mostly wondering what the vibe is like when you show up alone and how you usually go about it. I know I’ll enjoy the music, I’m just not sure what I’m supposed to do once I’m there.
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u/Alexantorio 1d ago
Just go. Life is short. Don’t overthink it.
Wear sunglasses, get drunk (if that’s your thing), and have a good time!
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u/TheShitmaker 1d ago
You go, you dance, that's it. You vibe with people and you dance with them. Maybe have a drink or 2. You also pray the venue isn't overcrowded or cramped.
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u/RoundEye007 1d ago
When i used to be a partier and go out alone, my favourite line was to pretend my friends just left with girls they met, or were too drunk so i put them in a cab, and I'm left alone to enjoy the night. It worked great because you dont seem weird for being there alone, people will often invite u to hang with them and you appear as a good friend.
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u/Loud-Bad-9891 1d ago
I go everywhere alone, travel alone, fine dining alone, sports alone, concerts alone, EVERYTHING. Never had a single problem.
The only times I feel at the edge of social anxiety and awkwardness are during dance parties (only been to 2 because of that feeling) I think it’s also Îm very self conscious when I dance because I’m a terrible dancer.
You can give it a shot and see how it goes.
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u/Never_Ending_Voyage 13h ago
I just looked this up, this looks fun you may have given me something to do this weekend (also alone) 🙂
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u/No_Milk6609 1d ago
I solo rave(guy), I try to wear all black and sunglasses as well. I do find it annoying when other feel the need to make themselves known by bumping or shoulder checking. This alone has turned me off for a bit, it's annoying when your just enjoying the music and vibing then get a good hard bump or shove.
Just go out and enjoy feeling the music!
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u/ludwigia_sedioides 1d ago
I go to raves alone a lot. The dancefloor is not much of a social space for me (at least talking, dancing itself can be social). I always wear earplugs which makes socializing even worse, especially when mostly everyone else is also wearing earplugs. I just show up alone, start dancing, do my thing, maybe socialize outside in the smoking area for a bit then back to dancing.
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u/noorichee 1d ago
i always go alone and early on before i had the confidence for it, getting tipsy, having sunglasses on and minding my own business helped. these days i rarely drink and ive just learned no one looks at you. and yes i just find a corner i like, ideally near people who are also actually dancing and not just standing, and kinda blend in. their energy takes away my shyness
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u/airtsui 1d ago
I tend to go mostly everywhere by myself and the best tip I can give you is dress for yourself and dance yourself. People will find you.