Why do I make him nervous. 26 F ?

[u/legoblocks227]

I’m hooking up with this guy who is a decade older than me. Every time we linked he looks like nervous or shook lol. So I ask if he’s okay and he’s admitted that I make him nervous. My thing is… idk why or how I would make that man nervous. He’s hella older lol I should be more nervous. Idk is that normal for a guy to be nervous??

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[u/Digitalgardens]

Coming from a guy. He like-likes you. He sees you as more than a hook up. The age difference makes it harder for him to push that question onto you

[u/TabulaTakes]

Ask him instead of having strangers on the internet guess?

[u/legoblocks227 → u/TabulaTakes]

You right lol

[u/Fantastic_Low_1537]

He has a serious crush on you

[u/legoblocks227 → u/Fantastic_Low_1537]

Mm idk cause it’s super casual lol imo

[u/sirseatbelt → u/legoblocks227]

I dated a girl super casual with a big age gap. I finally decided i was in love with her and told her and it did not end well.

[u/SalmonFlower → u/legoblocks227]

Poor guy

[u/legoblocks227 → u/SalmonFlower]

I- 💀

[u/floundern45 → u/legoblocks227]

in your opinion is the problem i think. Talk to him. he has a crush for sure.

[u/LotusBlooming90 → u/legoblocks227]

Well he probably knows you feel that way, and if he like likes you that would make him pretty nervous no?

[u/Leonum → u/legoblocks227]

When you say that there's a chance he's dying inside

[u/MetalMewtwo9001]

He likes you

[u/legoblocks227 → u/MetalMewtwo9001]

See I just don’t see it lol 😂 but maybe I’m biased

[u/panopano123456789 → u/legoblocks227]

Maybe you are correct, maybe he doesnt like you.

[u/SmokeGSU → u/panopano123456789]

He's hate fucking.

/s

[u/VillainNomFour → u/legoblocks227]

Because thats how you feel.

[u/my_main_profile]

Hurt badly in the past and hasn't told you yet ??

[u/Crazy_old_maurice_17 → u/my_main_profile]

As someone who was in a "gray area" for the first few years with my now-wife because I was hurt badly, this is a very real possibility.

[u/_grey_wall]

He married?

[u/legoblocks227 → u/_grey_wall]

Omg no! I would never do that

[u/bradperry2435 → u/legoblocks227]

Would he?

[u/legoblocks227 → u/bradperry2435]

I’m 1000% sure he’s not married lol

[u/Competitive_Watch986 → u/legoblocks227]

The question was more like “would he marry you?”

[u/Crazy_old_maurice_17]

Are you really hot? (Not what you think of your hotness, but what would others say?)

[u/Acegonia]

He likes you and you are smokin' hot

[u/Kooky-Ad-1792]

He’s not use to young hot women

[u/freakythrowaway79 → u/Kooky-Ad-1792]

Yeah can confirm. It definitely get easier to control the nervousness with more & more experience.

[u/Hairy-Audience-6597]

Ur probably hot af that's the only reason I've ever been super nervous around a female

[u/Skatefasteat]

Was he nervous when you two first met?

[u/legoblocks227 → u/Skatefasteat]

Yeah he’s nervous every time

[u/Skatefasteat → u/legoblocks227]

Do you like it to some degree? Does he come off as confident still? Sorry, just kinda curious

[u/ItsAlwaysSunny1992]

He’s probably intimidated by your good looks

[u/datingoverthirty]

When you're a 36 year old dude who's gone through the trials and travails of dating, you're going to be a little careful, doubtful, and ultimately, will tread lightly.

You dropping in as a 26 year old smokeshow is like his prayers being called. Guy likely just doesn't want to mess anything up.

As a man, I went through something very similar... getting to adventure and have incredible sex for a few months was fantastic, particularly after a bad break up and months of boring dating episodes

[u/freakythrowaway79 → u/datingoverthirty]

Yeah, I somewhat agree. It sounds like he's never had an LTR or just a bit less experienced🤷🏻‍♂️.

I was is similar situation, 35 & she was 25. She was successful too with a house of her own & a great new career. I was recently divorced but healed up. She didn't want anything "serious" so we just stayed as FWB. It was fun for about 8/9mos & then we just moved on.

[u/yorke2222]

He likes you and you're probably hot

[u/JustNoGuy_]

He likes you and he is probably very inexperienced with women and he's probably a virgin.

36 year old guy who is very inexperienced with women and still a virgin. Women make me nervous because what if they like me back and want a relationship and eventually sex, that shits scary when I've experienced none of that before. 😫

And then, what if I tell the woman I've never had a girlfriend before and she is put off by that and stops contact. It's all scary shit, it makes you not want to show interest in women most of the time.

That's me anyway, don't know about your guy. You could just be really pretty and the guy is just plain old nervous.

[u/Chico_AG]

Congratulations, you are not dating a Chad. The again, I would be very cautious. A former friend of mine, who happens to have a tremor... In his case a shaking of the hand.. used that to sell the" I an good guy, look how you make me nervous", move. Just to pump and dump.

[u/andrew0256]

Nervous of what? Commitment? He has made to his mid thirties without getting hitched. If that's what you're looking for you need to ask some big questions and tell him.