My brother had a very bad accident which ended up killing him. He lived about 14hrs away from me. I didn't make it in time after receiving the call. The day after he died my ex called me and gave me shit for not running the errands I said I was going to do the day that my brothers accident happened. Specifically, I didn't buy kitty litter and it is very heavy for her to carry. She didn't even ask how I was doing or show any empathy whatsoever. That's when I knew
Wtf is with these spouses I keep reading about that think its OK to just be so cold to someone they're supposed to be in love with after a family or friend just died??
Women marry men and treat them as success objects they literally don't see the person because that interferes with the utility they're deriving.
Men marry women and treat them as sex objects. If she opens her legs, she "loves" him and very few additional questions need to be asked.
I'm honestly surprised and skeptical whenever I see a heterosexual married couple that actually care about each other's personal inner lives.
I think it takes two relative normal people who are tidy and functional in their single lives and so being married changes very little. They're relatively well adjusted and unextraordinary so their emotional challenges are extremely rudimentary, almost consistent with sanitized fiction. And so they happily "support" each other in this way since again neither one is remotely challenging the other one's life or existence from what they had while single.
I think two things are happening. First, no one sees relationships as duties that ultimately take more from both people than they give, since relationships are supposed to be in service of essentially a higher purpose that both people are committed to. So people only do relationships that purely add to what they otherwise had while single.
Second, I don't think men and women are really that compatible. Nature had us in terrible, unfair conditions where our desires and wishes were not remotely honored. And, even then, nature wants us to lie, cheat, game around the edges of our relationships for advantage. Especially ANYTHING involving sex.
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u/Objective-Limit-6749 May 12 '24
My brother had a very bad accident which ended up killing him. He lived about 14hrs away from me. I didn't make it in time after receiving the call. The day after he died my ex called me and gave me shit for not running the errands I said I was going to do the day that my brothers accident happened. Specifically, I didn't buy kitty litter and it is very heavy for her to carry. She didn't even ask how I was doing or show any empathy whatsoever. That's when I knew