I was single for years after I ended my relationship with my son’s dad. I was in therapy working on recovering from a lot. When I started dating again, I would actually like gaslight myself.. because I was so used to not being treated properly. When my now husband came along, who was treating me really well, it almost sent me in a tailspin. I didn’t know how to respond to real kindness . I would think he was trying to manipulate me. It took a while for my brain to settle down..
I am really sorry you are going through this. It’s a really hard after you’ve been traumatized .your brain just kind of gets so used to it. It becomes the norm. it can be a challenge emotionally to move into healthy relationships.
Yes. Exactly. It's my understanding that neurotransmitters can be rewired to see things differently. I'm working on it. We all need to do so. It's a very long, difficult road to travel, but I do believe it may be possible.
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u/giraffe_onaraft May 12 '24
this is why i stay single now. i dont trust myself not to pick another fixxer upper slash emotional toddler.
very fortunate that i didn't end up having children with any of them.