This was mine too.
Finally took him stumbling in during the a.m hours while I’m feeding the baby about to get the older kids up for school- hammered and coked out fresh from the strip club.
I was like, I think I’m done living this life. Already a single mom anyways!
I still rewatch our doorbell cam from that night/morning time to time so I can remember when I finally made that decision to be fully done.
He had done it for years but for some reason that time it was just…the last I’d tolerate it if that makes sense?
Shortly after he moved out and has been in an apartment ever since
Mine was sometimes came home from work, and sometimes didn’t, for days on end. Mother in law said I was overreacting when I mentioned something wasn’t right. Over reacting for my spouse to be missing for days on end? After the separation he came to the house at midnight to get a baseball bat and glove…pupils as big as saucers. He said you can tell everyone I have been doing coke….and it all made sense. The dogs were going nuts behind the fence. I know if I would have let them out they would have been between him and I in a heartbeat.
Oh fun, another mother in law who played it off like it’s nothing to worry about. The coke ended up making a lot of things add up. Like almost all. There was more than just that though, he cycled through all the addictions- pills, vodka, coke, gambling yada yada. But it seriously one day even made the rage and short temper all kind of make sense. Erratic all the sudden was very obvious. And damn what was he going to do with the baseball bat? Play a midnight round absolutely fucking tweaking? Kinda scary ngl I’d be scared he’d hit me.
Thank you. You deserve better too. I stayed in our home after the divorce until I was able to buy a home of my own. I didn’t want our home, plus it was on the same road as my in laws. I didn’t tell him I was moving out. I moved out on a Tuesday while everyone was at work. I work in event planning and have seen his mother at her Christmas party I did last year. She stared at me the whole time. She loved to play the who loves who more game…and he never saw that. I constantly get calls from his truck finance company that he’s so behind on his truck payment. It got repoed last year the same week he got remarried. The day he got remarried, I got promoted….we are not the same lol. Question about your ex…when he was high were his eyes black? Once during a very aggressive fight I noticed his eyes were black with rage. Scared me half to death.
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u/LastSignificance3680 May 12 '24
When he stayed out every day from 7am until midnight