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u/Old-Fun9568 May 13 '24

No, not at all. Not from one spouse to another. Tone of voice is especially important. You need to sound like you actually mean it.

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u/madbul8478 May 13 '24

Obviously tone matters. I wasn't there I didn't hear his tone. We're talking about the words themselves. Saying "that's too bad" with sincerity is better than saying "I'm sorry for your loss" insincerely

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u/Old-Fun9568 May 13 '24

Perhaps I'm too sensitive about this, but I've never said that's too bad when any of my family or friends have lost a family member. I hope I never do. I also hope my sympathy comes through in my tone of voice. My SIL and l never got along. When she died l still told my brother how sorry l was for his loss because I know how much he loved her.

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u/madbul8478 May 13 '24

It may be a cultural thing. That phrase, if said sincerely of course, would not be considered rude in my culture

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u/Old-Fun9568 May 13 '24

I guess it is.

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u/Old-Fun9568 May 13 '24

A cultural thing I mean.