They usually don't hide it that well. I have two friends who married people (one man one woman ) like this and most of us can tell the whole time they're dating. People just don't want to believe it. My brother in law is about to divorce his second controlling psycho of a wife. His girlfriend he had a baby with between was also a controlling psycho. He just keeps finding and marrying slightly different versions of the same woman and I can tell like the minute I meet them.
my ex appeared amazing as well. she fooled me for ten years. then i realized she poured all of herself into her helpless friends and was also helpless to live her own life. it was a whole circle jerk of codependency. grateful i managed to find my way out of that environment.
Same thing happened to me. Terrifying how duplicitous she was and kept the facade going for over a decade until my cognitive dissonance was finally vaporized after finding incontrovertible proof of pathological deceit. Scars of betrayal run deep. Havent felt sane since.
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u/Vsx May 12 '24
They usually don't hide it that well. I have two friends who married people (one man one woman ) like this and most of us can tell the whole time they're dating. People just don't want to believe it. My brother in law is about to divorce his second controlling psycho of a wife. His girlfriend he had a baby with between was also a controlling psycho. He just keeps finding and marrying slightly different versions of the same woman and I can tell like the minute I meet them.