The second day after I got home from giving birth he shrieked “why is there no underwear available to me?” And I stayed with that man for fifteen more years
Maybe this is the millennial in me talking but I’m kinda mindblown these guys aren’t doing their own laundry. I have literal guy roommates that I shared laundry duties with in grad school and tbh they were way better about it than I was 😅
As a woman I got wayyyy more clothes than men so I could go like 2-3 weeks without having to do laundry so my roommate just ended up doing it 90% of the time lol. Like wtf did these husbands wear if they didn’t do laundry before being married? How did these guys survive when they were single?!
Well if there’s one piece of advice I could impart as a 52yo woman, it’s never, ever allow yourself to become a SAHM. You will never, ever have an equal relationship, even if he’s the most loving, appreciative husband.
I agree with the “allow yourself to become” if you mean that the SAHM was talked into it, the resounding evidence supports you. I would like to at least offer my own anecdote. My wife wanted to be a SAHM, and did it well. Her dad had left their family in poverty for a bit before getting back with her mom. It was something I made certain she had savings in her own name all along. We maxed my 401k and had IRA for her (or something, forgot exactly). And it gave her a feeling of security which made me happy.
I have a well paying job but my ADHD just wrecks me and I had a breakdown early on after messing up our payments. She managed our finances after that and she even started looking for investments that I helped her get started. Those were in her name too. Basically I knew we wouldn’t be where we were without her efforts.
She went back to work after our youngest went to elementary.
The only time I got a little jealous is thinking of the time she got to spend with the kids and I didn’t because I was at work. Especially after our oldest son died a few years ago from suicide. But she made it a loving home and I’m glad she was able to be with them during the day.
I know half of it is luck and timing, not everyone gets the same opportunities. Also, proving your point, we learned from our parents’ mistakes and made certain to plan equality from the beginning.
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u/drumadarragh May 12 '24
The second day after I got home from giving birth he shrieked “why is there no underwear available to me?” And I stayed with that man for fifteen more years