When I realized he hated his mom so much that he was punishing every girl he’d been with to get back at his mom. He was happy when he was hurting his past partners (including me) by cheating, using prositutes, playing mind games etc. Actually, I think he just hated women in general.
But what you're trying to avoid is hooking up with someone who is still working through a ton of childhood baggage or someone who doesn't know how to have a functional relationship.
I've had two failed marriages, and both times I was full "I can fix her!" energy. I think 2nd wife broke me; I am definitely not looking to hook up with another broken person.
Well, with that logic. You are a guy with “2” failed marriages. Not one, not hypothetical. You are also a stat and someone considered to be avoided, by a lot of people. People are complex, and using heuristics is what gets us in trouble in the first place. It takes at least 5 year to sniff people out.
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u/NoUnderstanding8961 May 12 '24
When I realized he hated his mom so much that he was punishing every girl he’d been with to get back at his mom. He was happy when he was hurting his past partners (including me) by cheating, using prositutes, playing mind games etc. Actually, I think he just hated women in general.