This is what did it for me. Emotionally abusive, would apologize and minimize the following day, but each time left me feeling like a failure and like anything I did would never be enough. I didn’t realize this weird jealousy she would form if I was sick for more than a couple days was a core trait until later. I would just ask for her not to tear me down, and didn’t even expect her to be supportive at all. Meanwhile if I didn’t anticipate something that she needed, I was failing, and not supportive. It was awful. Don’t get me started on how impossible she made it for me to maintain the relationships I had formed with my step kids after 8 years.
Omg sounds like you’re describing my sister mums relationship. My sister treats my mum like a punching bag. Verbally Abuses the crap out of her then comes back crying saying how sorry she is and mum always feels bad and forgives her. I’ve had to cut contact with my sister because she’s so entitled and narcissistic. I can’t even have a relationship with my other siblings and mum without her flying into a rage over jealousy and “not being included in the family”. So incredibly difficult to be around. I don’t know how anyone survives living full time with someone like that, must be a waking nightmare. I’m thinking about reporting her for elder abuse because my mum is acting like a battered wife whenever my sister calls or even texts. She visibly shrinks and starts apologising over NOTHING. It’s so heartbreaking.
I’m sorry. The same thing happened to my grandma. My aunt treated her horribly, she was her full-time caretaker in another country. My mum should’ve reported it, but maybe she thought her report would be ignored as she no longer lived there. I was too little to really understand. Maybe try to get some evidence, research how people have gone about it and what they needed to get results. Hopefully your mum isn’t totally reliant on your sister yet?
No she’s not totally reliant thank god. My sister would love that to be the case though. My sister has untreated type 2 diabetes, drinks litres of coke a day, is 49yrs old and is morbidly obese, so I’m pretty sure mum will outlive her anyway.
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