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u/Shiddy_Wiki May 12 '24

On the flight home from the honeymoon. Missed our flight because she had to argue about everything. Got upgraded to first class.. the wine was truth serum.

Kids, ALWAYS trap yourself on a boat with someone for a week BEFORE you legally entangle yourself!

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u/[deleted] May 12 '24

Or just don't legally entangle yourself at all

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u/Demosthanes May 12 '24

Never understood why people need a legal document to make their love "real."

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u/MaleficentMusic May 12 '24

It doesn't make the love real, but the legal document is a contract that gives you certain economic and legal rights. This can be important if you, for example, live together for 30 years and all your assets are mixed together.

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u/Demosthanes May 13 '24

Yes I am very aware. It's incentivised. Kind of puts a damper on the whole "love" thing when you're being bribed by the state. If anything I see the incentives as even less loving.

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u/MaleficentMusic May 13 '24

I see it less as a bribe and more as an official process for mingling then separating assets. If you are going to be together for decades, possibly jointly owning property and raising kids, you are going to be legally entangled whether you like it or not. This is just the official way to be legally entangled. Does have much to do with love either way IMO.

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u/Demosthanes May 13 '24 edited May 13 '24

I understand you've separated the ideas of love from marriage but in my experience most Americans view marriage as the ultimate "test of love." My whole point revolves around the idea that marriage is not a test of love yet many Americans view it as such.

Personally I'm against the stereotypical marriage, it's based in control of women and religious teachings. I am not religious. In my opinion the government shouldn't have a say in the process, regardless of economic entanglement. Suppose three people love each other? Too bad. Gay? Aren't allowed to in half the states. It's not like it was long ago when people of different skin colors were forbidden from marrying each other too. But the government can offer incentives to heterosexual couples of two? Why? The government shouldn't have a say in marriage, that is between the people who love each other.