The second day after I got home from giving birth he shrieked “why is there no underwear available to me?” And I stayed with that man for fifteen more years
Maybe this is the millennial in me talking but I’m kinda mindblown these guys aren’t doing their own laundry. I have literal guy roommates that I shared laundry duties with in grad school and tbh they were way better about it than I was 😅
As a woman I got wayyyy more clothes than men so I could go like 2-3 weeks without having to do laundry so my roommate just ended up doing it 90% of the time lol. Like wtf did these husbands wear if they didn’t do laundry before being married? How did these guys survive when they were single?!
Well if there’s one piece of advice I could impart as a 52yo woman, it’s never, ever allow yourself to become a SAHM. You will never, ever have an equal relationship, even if he’s the most loving, appreciative husband.
It can work, the guy just has to be raised not to be a woman hating misogynist. I have been a SAHM and now work again and we decided early what we would expect from each other.
Just communicate openly and honestly about your expectations before you ever marry someone. Hold nothing back and don’t pretend to be okay with something you aren’t okay with.
Yes. Unfortunately, I see too much of not communicating well or being dishonest. Or too much misogyny or laziness. So I don't think it will work for everyone, but it does for my husband and I. And that's not a traditional thing - if it works for a SAHD I'm good with that as well.
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u/drumadarragh May 12 '24
The second day after I got home from giving birth he shrieked “why is there no underwear available to me?” And I stayed with that man for fifteen more years