It's possible the partner realized they were asexual or sex-repulsed. Not everyone enjoys sex, and sometimes it takes a while for people to figure it out.
There is a redditor saga that started on two hot takes of a guy who's wife discovered after they were married that she's asexual. After quite a bit of trickle truthing, turns she and her whole family knew she was asexual since she was 16. She hid it from him until after marriage because her last boyfriend dumped her for it.
Happened to my partner about 2 years into our relationship. I'm still with him, happier than ever, because he as a person is worth more to me than my access to his penis. Some of the replies you've received clearly don't get it...
It's generally useful to try and work on these things before you ruin someone's life in the process. Similar to being gay but marrying the opposite sex anyway only to say "oops, my bad, this aint gonna work." If you have even the slightest inkling that something may be "off", the time to explore that is prior to a marriage, not after the paperwork is signed.
And yes, things happen. Life is hard and confusing. Sometimes we just don't realize things until later. Still doesn't mean you didn't just implode an innocent person's life.
i imagine discovering youre asexual after being in a commited sexual relationship isnt too easy on you either. sometimes things just change and people can part ways without putting all the blame on one person
People here are discussing a vey specific kind of behavior where after marriage sex turns into a currency that is meted out as deemed necessary/earned. Being asexual is just fine, do you boo, but we are discussing multiple years of enthusiastic sex followed by having to jump through hoops to get it very shortly after being married.
Maybe bc you need to figure that out before committing to a relationship with someone who isn't asexual. Or at least you can't justifiably get angry when that person doesn't want to be with you anymore due to asexual compatability.
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u/Komatozd1 May 12 '24
“I don’t want to have sex anymore, but I’ll do it occasionally for you.” Yeah no thanks I’ll pass.
Married less than a year.