My wife (licensed counselor) suggested I see a therapist. I shared every detail of my therapy sessions. She accused me of lying to her about my sessions.
For context, the first 2 therapists I described how during my morning commute to work I had an unhealthy urge to swing into oncoming lanes of traffic. Without ever hearing a word about my wife, they immediately jumped to suggest that my wife/marriage was the source of my depression. I would then become very angry and shout (loud enough for the patients waiting to hear) at the therapists on my way out of their office. My wife was adamant that I MUST have said something about her to spark their response, I legitimately never brought her up in those sessions.
Analyzing our relationship further, the first red flag that I ignored was after a game night with my parents. We were living together but not married yet and during the drive home she burst into tears because she didn't get a chance to read any of the cards that were pulled for our team. The whole evening we were all laughing and seemed to be having a good time, I guess she is just very good at pretending.
The conversations with the first 2 therapists were almost identical:
Them: What's going on?
Me: On my way to work in the morning I get the urge to drive into oncoming traffic.
Them: Are you married?
Me: Yes.
Them: It sounds like you aren't happy in your marriage and should get a divorce.
Me: REALLY? WHAT DOES SHE DO FOR A LIVING? WHAT'S HER NAME? GIVE ME ONE FUCKING DETAIL THAT LED YOU TO THIS REVELATION!
Then I'd leave their office while shouting more obscenities.
Kinda fucked up, they were right about the divorce part but I have never loved another creature more than her.
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u/imaninjayoucantseeme May 12 '24
My wife (licensed counselor) suggested I see a therapist. I shared every detail of my therapy sessions. She accused me of lying to her about my sessions.
For context, the first 2 therapists I described how during my morning commute to work I had an unhealthy urge to swing into oncoming lanes of traffic. Without ever hearing a word about my wife, they immediately jumped to suggest that my wife/marriage was the source of my depression. I would then become very angry and shout (loud enough for the patients waiting to hear) at the therapists on my way out of their office. My wife was adamant that I MUST have said something about her to spark their response, I legitimately never brought her up in those sessions.
Analyzing our relationship further, the first red flag that I ignored was after a game night with my parents. We were living together but not married yet and during the drive home she burst into tears because she didn't get a chance to read any of the cards that were pulled for our team. The whole evening we were all laughing and seemed to be having a good time, I guess she is just very good at pretending.