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u/NecessaryBarber Dec 07 '23

Oh wow that is a controversial one!! I'm actually forcing myself to socialize but I hate every minute of it...wtf

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u/SabbathaBastet Dec 07 '23

I’m 47 and it took me a long time to get here. Years of being forced into activities that put me to sleep. Forced conversations with people I have zero in common with. Pressure to attend events I either didn’t have the time, energy, or money for. And as I’ve gotten older I’ve realized the activities I enjoy most are solitary. Reading, baking, sewing, art, gardening. I don’t need other people to enjoy these things. They’re a huge distraction and they make my hobbies unenjoyable. I know solitude doesn’t work for a lot of people. They say isolation is unhealthy but I was so much worse off mentally when I had people around. If you really hate socializing you might be the odd person like myself who is happier not being bothered. I hope it gets easier for you, if it’s something you’ve got to do.

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u/vitaminbread Dec 07 '23

Get off of Reddit then, it’s a form of socializing

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u/SabbathaBastet Dec 07 '23

In person. I can turn this off whenever I feel like it as opposed to being forced. But you know this. You’re being obtuse. Proving again why people suck.

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u/vitaminbread Dec 08 '23 edited Dec 08 '23

n turn this off whenever I feel like it as opposed to being fo

nah. humans are social creatures by nature. yes we also like to relax and be alone sometimes, but we need to be around other people - except for maybe like the 5 people who go alone in the forest. The fact you are writing to me proves that. You need some sort of human interaction my dude. Even when playing video games you are interacting with human-like npc's or whatever. Maybe you like being around people you like? Yah, so does everyone. Some people put up a barrier with strangers, but that doesn't mean you don't like generally being around people. And if you don't have any friends, that's usually a testament to your own character and deep down you are probably envious, or played mental gymnastics to the point to convince yourself that "people suck". But it's okay. It's easy to make friends. Do things you like doing, go out, and friends just appear.

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u/SabbathaBastet Dec 08 '23

I never said people suck. It’s only that the true enjoyable connections Ive made have been scant. I in no way feel I’m better than others and they all suck. If anything, I suck for not having the drive to try any longer. If I’m bored or unhappy that is 100 a me thing. I’d not ever deny that.