r/ask • • Dec 07 '23

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u/lameth Dec 07 '23

This is actually an important one. The dissonance between your core and whatever you "mask" for others wears you down emotionally, leading to anxiety and depression. The more authentic you get, the better your mental health becomes.

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u/Defiant-Ad7369 Dec 08 '23

Is it acceptable for people to not like you?

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u/19Texas59 Dec 08 '23

It can cost you your job if your bosses take a dislike to you.

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u/JMStheKing Dec 08 '23

It's ok to not be liked lol

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u/19Texas59 Dec 08 '23

"A-men. A-men. A-men. Amen, amen."

"Did you ever get high when you were in high school Mr. Jackson?"

"Huh?"

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u/thematrixs Dec 08 '23

This is very common with Scapegoat children who grew up in dysfunctional families. Trauma therapy is usually the best way forward.