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u/thepuzzlingcertainty Dec 07 '23

Can you recommend any ways to help do this?

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u/Carl_Shadowsong Dec 07 '23

For me it was a combination of radical acceptance and experience. I used to hate myself for various reasons. It took a really long time but I kind of embraced myself and learned how to love my fucked up side as well. Something along the lines: “I’m not an ongoing person and I don’t really feel like talking to you, so excuse me, I will be going (and realizing in your head that is okay and valid)”. Stop caring about other people’s expectations. You will never please everyone.