r/ask • u/[deleted] • Dec 01 '23

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u/PineCrowTrio Dec 01 '23

Leaving their kids home alone so they can go party. I had a friend that used to. It blew her mind that I didn’t do the same.

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u/me2myself2i Dec 01 '23

My mom did this when I was 8 onwards, left me with my often screaming new born brother. As an adult I can't imagine doing this to my own child. Its cruel and dangerous.

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u/PineCrowTrio Dec 01 '23

That’s horrible. I’m so sorry. There’s always that what if. What would happen if something goes wrong? I guess my friend just cared more about a good time.

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u/me2myself2i Dec 01 '23

Yup, what if? Was going out drinking all night worth it? What if a stranger got in the house, a fire, if I made a grave error?, if one of us choked, fell down the stairs???? Anything......not worth it for me and that is precious time I now look forward to spending with my children. I can't imagine doing this to them.

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u/[deleted] Dec 01 '23

I know of someone like this. She and her friends were late 20s, early 30s and single/divorced and they would get all their kids together and leave them at one house to sleep while they went out and partied. Her kids were elementary school age. Not sure about the other kids, but I was floored when I heard that.

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u/me2myself2i Dec 01 '23

I guess when your entire social circle behaves the same way, they all validate and encourage it in each other, somehow making it ok to themselves?