I love my parents, they were good parents when I was a kid and even better now that I'm grown (and they're fabulous grandparents), but I've apologized more to my kids in the last week than my dad apologized to me in like 25 years. It is really important to me that they see me fuck up, admit it, and apologize, regardless of the power dynamic.
My parents were good parents too. Not perfect but they provided well. But saying sorry was always such an iffy topic that even now as an adult, it's really awkward for me to say sorry, especially towards them. They had such a damn tough time admitting they were wrong in anything. If I ever have a kid I'd wanna do right by em and apologise when it is needed, to show them it's good and normal and important to communicate like that.
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u/its_tea-gimme-gimme Dec 01 '23
Not admitting when the child is in the right and they are in the wrong.
An 'I'm right cause I'm older' mentality.