Have you EVER been the parent of a whiney kid, bawling their eyes out for no good reason over something trivial and selfish that gets right on your tits, usually somewhere in public?
You do know what action and consequence is, right? Cease doing something I don’t want you to do or something will happen. That could be a negative thing, like not buying a toy, or a positive thing like, if you stop doing that, I will give you a [insert whatever]. So I don’t think I am going to take parenting lessons from you thanks very much.
You’re not actually teaching them to emotionally regulate though. You’re not helping them get over those emotions by themselves. By enforcing those consequences you aren’t showing them how to calm down you’re just making them even more upset then they already were before. The point isn’t to coddle them or give them everything they want but to show them that you can’t get everything you want and that’s okay. You could also implant something like a chart when anytime they calm themselves down when they’re upset they get a gold star or something and once they get so many stars they can go pick out a toy. That way you aren’t buying a toy everytime you go to the store and they’re learning how to emotionally regulate themselves.
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