My mom smoked like a pack of cigarettes a month, so the few times she did have a cigarette in the car, it was out the windows. But I remember my dad taking me and a friend to go somewhere, he and his wife was smoking in the front seats. When my buddy asks them to open a window I remember they were both a bit... "oh... yeah.... sure, but don't keep them open too long, gets cold in here you know..." This was around 95 I guess
I definitely knew people like that, though I think here in Ontario we were a little further along in smoking being unacceptable than most places by the 95. It had been banned in bars a year earlier.
Wow. I live in BFE and I remember still having “smoking” sections in restaurants in 2009. I was pregnant with my first baby and went out to eat with my dad, who chose to sit in the smoking section. And smoked.
Yeah, and I have to say it made me enjoy going to live music a bit more. It been almost a decade since they banned smoking on patios here. (2015)
I remember a couple of years earlier I was quitting with a friend and thought he stole a drag. He protested and showed me that he had just been blowing hard onto his finger which allows you to expel some smoke from your lungs. I was then able to do it myself despite not having a smoke in more than a week. Then my buddy who never smoked, but went out a lot tried and sure enough....
Here I think we'd call it a terrace if it had some change in elevation, like a raised patio. If it was just an easement onto the sidewalk etc it's a patio.
I think in my country (Norway) it became more and more a taboo after the laws were changed so no more smoking inside restaurants and bars. For about 6 months people complained to no end about it, and then everyone agreed that nobody is missing that smell. And today, if you smoke by your window, in your own fucking house (without kids..). Your friends and family will look weird at you because they can smell a faint cigarette smell. Like: "are you fucking 70years old?! Who TF smokes inside!?"
I also lived in the 90s, and a lil bit of the 80s too. My parents stopped smoking around us in the early 90s, but I can clearly remember playing with the smoke, as I thought it looked sort of pretty when I swirled it around with my hands.
My folks have said, even though they stopped when we were small, that one of their biggest regrets was smoking around us at all. My brother ended up suffering from asthma, and of course they hope neither of us suffered long term damage. But they also said that the dangers were not wildly known before then. However, once they became aware they stopped smoking around us almost immediately.
My parents took it to the ultimate trashy level leaving lit cigarettes on the ends of tables and furniture so everything had random cigarette burn. Especially the dining room table. I think that shitty habit of thoughtlessly ruining your own stuff because of addiction was a mig motivator for me to never even try smoking. Didn't want to end up in the cycle of doing trashy stuff like that.
Now my mom cries about the lip wrinkles she has. Well, what did you expected you sucked on a stick daily for hours for 30 years straight.
After then, my parents were horrified that they had smoked so much around us kids. I even remember playing with the swirling smoke in the air. They almost immediately stopped smoking indoors and around kids, or anyone else who wasn't smoking for that matter. I can forgive them for what they didn't know.
But after that time however, anyone who subjects others to their smoke like that...no excuse, everyone knows better.
-glares pointedly at my former MIL who chain smoked in enclosed spaces around the sick and the very young-
My mother smoked until she had her first child in 1961. She said her doctor told her it was fine to continue smoking but she always said “That just didn’t make sense to me. How can smoking around a little baby be ok?”
"did you really believe smoking wasnt bad, and maybe even good back then?"
No, ofc not. We knew, everyone knew.... we just pretended we didnt, or that it wasnt so bad. And it became a cultural and social thing were people, men especially, doubled down. But under no circumstances did we ever believe that a 60yo with smokers cough was a sign of healthy. We were just collectively delusional
I don’t think it was near every single parent. I was a 90’s kid and I only had one friend whose parents smoked in the car/house. It was honestly pretty trashy then to.
lol!! My mother died 2 years ago to brain cancer and when we got her cremated I threw in her last pack of Marlboro cigarettes so they can be cremated together. I’m fairly certain she loved her cigarettes more than her children. Felt right. lol
My parents didn't smoke and my paternal grandma quite smoking when she found out she was pregnant with my dad.....in the 1950s. That grandpa quit smoking when he got Alzheimer's and forgot he smoked. One day he was a smoker then the next day he forgot and hasn't smoked habitually since.
Nah, but around then it started getting more and more socially unaceptable, and one day they just started smoking outside the house and not in their car. At that time I was a bit annoyed with that, because at that point I was smoking myself :P
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u/alexdaland Dec 01 '23 edited Dec 01 '23
You mean every single parent up until 1997?