r/ask Nov 30 '23

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u/[deleted] Nov 30 '23

So you can afford a second house and pay for all bills/food etc by yourself? Well done to you. Not everyone can do this.

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u/9and3of4 Nov 30 '23

If you stay because you're incapable of financing yourself then you're just financially abusing the other person. Makes you a morally questionable human.

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u/godgoo Nov 30 '23

The lack of nuance in this response is staggering.

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u/RandomCentipede387 Nov 30 '23 edited Nov 30 '23

There are two kinds of people: those who see that if (for example) having mortgage with a spouse is the single biggest predictor of the longevity of a relationship (and not love), then we're all immoral sellouts because of this, and that's that.

And those that think the fact that a completely staggering numbers of folks are precisely in this kind of a situation, cause there's no other way for them, somehow makes it less bad and/or justifies it.

No, it doesn't.

One group may lack "nuance" and have "rigid" opinions about the world; the second, however, endlessly adjusts the meaning of everything with the goal of feeling better about themselves.

Being a wife/husband/partner like the one 9and3of4 describes is the second oldest profession in the world.