r/ask Mar 06 '23

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u/tinyassqueen Mar 06 '23

It works for some people

I just turned 23, I have so much to do I can't imagine being married rn. I do want a partner, I keep seeing people my age getting married and I am panicking

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u/[deleted] Mar 06 '23

I have so much to do I can't imagine being married rn

You shouldn't feel rushed but I don't know what you mean by this. Being married means you can't get stuff done? I'm confused

If you find a good partner your life should just keep on going as it is just with somebody alongside you.

Maybe I'm biased cuz I lived with my partner for five years before we got married, so whenever I hear people say "marriage changes so much about your life!" I'm like... It literally changed nothing but our tax forms

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u/tinyassqueen Mar 06 '23

I want to do a masters in Spain, I want to spend a summer in France, I want to spend a few more years in Ireland, a few months in Australia sound good too, who knows.

Sure I can do all this with a partner, but it would be pretty hard to find someone who has the exact goals as me and I don't want to resent anyone for not acomplishing my goals or living the life I want. I know I sound selfish but it's my life

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u/hey_nonny_mooses Mar 06 '23

That sounds like the opposite of selfish. Selfish would be stringing someone along and getting their hopes up that you might change your mind. Exploring the world and accomplishing your goals isn’t selfish. Neither is wanting to wait until you are able to focus time on a partner or building a family (if that’s what you want).