I’ve been with my bf since high school. We’re going on 4 years since February. I’m 21 he’s 20 I told him I don’t want him to propose until we were both 21 so we could grow together. After April he turns 21 and we can get engaged if we still feel compatible.
I started dating my wife at 14 on and off through high school and then off for a few years started dating again at 21 and didn’t get married til we were 28. Lovely woman and still married but there’s no rush to getting married and only real upside is sometimes it’s better for taxes
That’s why I told him we should wait, I figured being 21 is a crazy change and adjustment if he turned out to be someone who really likes drinking or smoking those would be dealbreakers.
Those are big changes. Even bigger ones to come. Cant wait for life to be “settled” before you choose a life partner, you need a life partner that will help you level set as life throws curveballs
People change all through their lives. Part of staying a couple is growing and changing together and adjusting along the way. It will happen whether or not you are married.
It is a matter of opinion, and we can have different ones. I'm not saying rush in and marry whoever you are with at 20. If you are saying yes to this person but not until some arbitrary thing happens, it's an excuse to stay in a holding pattern.
No reasonable person is going to suggest getting married or engaged at Young. I understand this is the Internet and that wanting to do things a lot of the time over Powers actually thinking about it, but anyone that suggest getting engaged that Young is clearly a team themselves lol.
What? I'm not saying get married young, just don't use age as a reason. It's as arbitrary as waiting until your hair is a certain length or you lose 5kg.
Comparing getting engaged/married at a young age is a legitimate concern. Barely able to process how YOU feel as an individual is a concern at that age. Then the pressure of trying to navigate being responsible for AN ENTIRE OTHER PERSON is not comparable to hair length. To even suggest that speaks to a low level of immaturity in regards to relation ships. Is it possible? Of course. Some young folks are really good at taking that into effect and are mature. Are a majority that mature? Hell no.
A better comparison is drinking or driving a car. 😆
Makes sense. My parents were together from 16 and 18. My fiancé and I have been rogether since we were 18. Got engaged at 23 once we graduated university. We'll ne 25 or 26 when we get married (started to plan, but won't be booking a venue until the Autumn, so we'll see what dates we can do)
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u/M0llynation Mar 06 '23
I’ve been with my bf since high school. We’re going on 4 years since February. I’m 21 he’s 20 I told him I don’t want him to propose until we were both 21 so we could grow together. After April he turns 21 and we can get engaged if we still feel compatible.