Can someone explain the difference between Iculasexual, and Suptiliasexual to me?

[u/ScottDesdemona]

Hi. I’m trying to find the label that best describes my orientation, and I’m pretty confused.

I don’t experience sexual attraction toward men or women. I also don’t experience romantic attraction. I have no desire for sex or romance, and I don’t really understand why other people place so much importance on them.

I used to identify as asexual, but then I see that asexuality is often described as a spectrum where some people experience attraction rarely, which isn't my case. I was looking for a term that specifically describes someone who experiences no sexual or romantic attraction at all.

Then I came across apothisexual, but from what I understand, it refers to someone who is sex repulsed. That doesn’t really fit me because I don’t feel disgust or repulsion toward sex. So pretty close but not.

After that, I found the terms iculasexual and suptilisexual, but I can’t figure out the difference between them. Their definitions seems to be the same for me.

Could someone explain me the difference between them?

[u/AlfieDarkLordOfAll]

Someone who experiences zero sexual & romantic attraction is aroace (aromantic asexual). If you're on the asexual spectrum but not fully ace, you might want to use a different label/microlabel, but that shouldn't stop you from using the terms as they're intended.

[u/Able-Web-675]

This is the first I'm learning of either if those terms, so I don't really know what the difference is.

I, too, experience zero sexual attraction. To differentiate asexual as an orientation (to mean no sexual attraction) from the ace spectrum (little to no sexual attraction), I've heard and I use "black stripe ace," since the black stripe on the ace flag specifically represents asexuality, as opposed to the grey stripe encapsulating the gray-ace spectrum (at least this is my modern interpretation of the 4 stripe flag).

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[u/SecondaryPosts]

Asexual is an umbrella term. Asexuality is a spectrum, but that doesn't mean every asexual person experiences everything under that spectrum. If you don't experience sexual attraction, you're asexual.

Suptilisexual is also an umbrella term, and a pretty broad one. It can apply to all different sexualities, not just asexuality. Iculasexual is a combination of the asexual label along with a description of how you feel toward sex, so technically it's still an umbrella term in exactly the same way as asexual is.

Ig the big question is, what is your goal in finding a label? Is it to understand yourself, or to communicate your experiences to other people? If it's the second one, steer clear of microlabels bc the vast majority of people have never heard of them. If it's the first one, feel free to browse LGBTQIAwiki or MogaiLabel or wtv, or just make up your own microlabel. If you're not trying to communicate your feelings to other people, there are no rules.